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Hello! OP here, just for a final update.
We are still together after a long conversation last night.
He did explain things very well regarding why he was feeling unsure about my motives towards being with him.
He did agree he was cheap
He also agreed that now he sees why I was insulted
But also, he also mentioned that he doesn't want to end up always paying even if does "step up" from now on like I asked him to, and he wasn't sure if I was here for "fun" or for the long run so it was hard for him to invest in me.
I had to assure him that I will like to see a long term future with him (will like a marriage for life if we do get married) but he is just giving me a grim look if we do get married if he keeps on being stingy. Also, like always I will like to pull forth my fair share in the relationship when it comes to paying for things.
He said if we were to marry and have kids, he will take care of me and the children and that is what he hopes to become of us.
Sorry for pulling you all in and twisting the view, I felt very unappreciated with him and I wanted to ask from his view. Also, to be honest I wanted both opinions and as a female I didn't want to be dismissed as being just too sensitive. (you know people do that, I am not that sensitive but some people assume you just are)
to be honest, I am still on the fence with him. like some people mentioned it's the same issue we keep on having just wrapped up in a different way. I was really ready for us to end last night, but we came to a compromise.
I hope we don't have this kind of a huge argument, but if we do I might be back on city data or it will just be the end for us.
Thank you all again!!
He is who he is, no matter how LONG you talk to him.
NEVER marry someone thinking that they will change something. If you don't want things to be exactly the way they are now (and maybe sometimes worse) for the rest of your life, don't marry him.
He is the way he is, stingy and doubtful of you. That's not a very good relationship base.
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Since he agreed he is cheap, don't expect that to change if you get married. If being cheap all the time is something you're not willing to live with, you better think about moving on.
A lot of people say that relationships are hard work. And while my husband and I have had some periods of time where we have argued more than others, all in all, I don't feel like our relationship has ever been hard work. I feel like LIFE is hard work. A relationship should make the hard work of life easier.
When the waitress brought over two checks, did you pick hers up and pay for it as well?
Did she pick up his?
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