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I never admitted this to anyone IRL. Not even to my sister. We just don't talk about relationship issues. I'm afraid that a guy that I decide to get serious with will turn abusive & becomes difficult to leave the relationship. And no, I was never in an abusive relationship. If I brought this fear up on a date, will guys think I'm crazy and run for the hills?
I grew up in a stable environment with my parents and younger siblings. My parents were never abusive towards each other. So, I don't know where I get this fear from???
I never admitted this to anyone IRL. Not even to my sister. We just don't talk about relationship issues. I'm afraid that a guy that I decide to get serious with will turn abusive & becomes difficult to leave the relationship. And no, I was never in an abusive relationship. If I brought this fear up on a date, will guys think I'm crazy and run for the hills?
I grew up in a stable environment with my parents and younger siblings. My parents were never abusive towards each other. So, I don't know where I get this fear from???
I'd say that the majority of relationships are not abusive, so your chances of being in one are small. your best bet is to be aware of the signs of a potentially abusive person. Here's one link, but I'd check more out as knowledge is power:
It's an irrational fear. Do not tell guys you are handicapped by irrational ideas.
Ending up in abusive relationship is not something that happens TO you, you allow it to happen or not.
If you see red flags leave the relationship.
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I never admitted this to anyone IRL. Not even to my sister. We just don't talk about relationship issues. I'm afraid that a guy that I decide to get serious with will turn abusive & becomes difficult to leave the relationship. And no, I was never in an abusive relationship. If I brought this fear up on a date, will guys think I'm crazy and run for the hills?
I grew up in a stable environment with my parents and younger siblings. My parents were never abusive towards each other. So, I don't know where I get this fear from???
Coming from the 'Happy Farm' and NOT the 'Funny Farm' I'm not sure.
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Originally Posted by akck
I'd say that the majority of relationships are not abusive, so your chances of being in one are small. your best bet is to be aware of the signs of a potentially abusive person. Here's one link, but I'd check more out as knowledge is power:
It's an irrational fear. Do not tell guys you are handicapped by irrational ideas.
Ending up in abusive relationship is not something that happens TO you, you allow it to happen or not.
If you see red flags leave the relationship.
Right. I've read the signs of abusive relationships plenty of times. I still have that fear. I know being with someone that is an alcoholic or uses drugs increases the risk so I stay away from those kind of men.
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Originally Posted by homeboi
Stop watching so many "reality" shows.
I used to watch "Lifetime" movies although it has been a long time since watching one. Then there's other shows on Lifetime or other channels that deal with relationships gone bad
I used to watch "Lifetime" movies although it has been a long time since watching one. Then there's other shows on Lifetime or other channels that deal with relationships gone bad
So why not focus your attention on relationships that are good? Spend time with happy couples. Speak to people in long term happy relationships. If you keep feeding your fear, then it just keeps growing & the type of guy you're trying to avoid is quite adept at picking out wounded birds.
I have had so many female relatives that were in abusive relationships. Lots and lots. I hope I am good at recognizing the signals if it happens to me.
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