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No, you just don't talk shop with them. I also avoid talking shop with other engineers. I hope you have other things to talk about to women or other men besides your work. Otherwise you will quickly find yourself surrounded by very bored people, even those who understand you.
^^^^^This.
You never have to appear less educated or intelligent, but a wise person know not to be focused solely on one topic. Whether it's a job or a hobby, you have to engage with others and not repel them with monologues on topics only of interest to you.
I don't care what your profession or advanced schooling. I don't think it feasible to talk about it on a date! You're a human being first. Profession notwithstanding.
You keep pretending as long as the other benifits of the relationship continue to compell you to do so.
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As a woman who likes intelligent men, I would caution you against listening to that. I enjoy hearing about technical things that I otherwise never would have known about. I have a friend who is interested in bioprocess engineering, and I could listen to him for hours.
How do you expect to have a relationship with someone if you are constantly pretending to be "dumber" than you are?
Hopefully if your an engineer you can do far more than just plug numbers into a software package. Engineers I know can build and program their own devices or write their own code, derive their own equations etc.
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I don't think it's about "dumbing" yourself down OP. Most women, hell most people, aren't engineers or scientists. You need to be able to relate to them regardless of their "level". I mean just because a person can't plug mathematical formulas into Autocad programs doesn't mean they can't relate to you in some other area.
If you define yourself in terms of your profession/career, you have a whole nother set of problems to overcome before you're even ready to meet women...
I've been dating my G/F for well over a year now and haven't had to dumb down my intelligence at all to her. I try and avoid talking shop with her, but sometimes she wants to know a bit about what i'm working on. But for the most part our conversations are usually about daily life. Sports, fave restaurants, pop culture, music etc etc. She doesn't want to talk about Arduino programming or my latest drone build.
When dating, I found that being an engineer was a plus with many women I dated, however I still had to make sure I didn't have the personality of a door knob. I have a pretty well-rounded personality so it really wasn't much of an issue with me. In fact, I always get the "wow, I wouldn't think you were an engineer" comment on a lot of the first dates I went on.
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I've been dating my G/F for well over a year now and haven't had to dumb down my intelligence at all to her. I try and avoid talking shop with her, but sometimes she wants to know a bit about what i'm working on. But for the most part our conversations are usually about daily life. Sports, fave restaurants, pop culture, music etc etc. She doesn't want to talk about Arduino programming or my latest drone build.
When dating, I found that being an engineer was a plus with many women I dated, however I still had to make sure I didn't have the personality of a door knob. I have a pretty well-rounded personality so it really wasn't much of an issue with me. In fact, I always get the "wow, I wouldn't think you were an engineer" comment on a lot of the first dates I went on.
Exactly... the stereotypes exist for a reason, but not all smart engineer types are social dumbasses... I sort of resent it a bit.. but whatever.....
I do too. I've been asked if I go to Star Wars conventions before.
Star Wars convention, civil war reenactments, and things of that ilk are just goober/geek stuff.. but whatever floats people's boats... LOL.....
I had a coworker that used to take off 3 or 4 days and do those festivals where you dress up in 15th century garb... I forget what it's called... but he was a big guy with long hair and he'd be some kind of guard with swords and armor and the like.... Damn I wished I could remember the name of it...
But he'd geek out hard at work talking about it and I'd have to keep a straight face and not get judgey about it... LOL.....
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