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Hi OP,
WOW! Tough break kid, you're in love never even knew it? they say there's someone out there for everyone, don't buy into that dude, the old timers say you may only be totally in love one or two times in your life maybe three but the chances are slim to known. I feel bad for you because you just checked into the Heartbreak Hotel, it hurts and burns because the flame is going to burn for a long time, your probably already catching yourself talking out loud to yourself? it's a tough road but only you can take that walk alone. As you travel down that lonely street of dreams, KEEP REMINDING YOURSELF, next time a woman smiles and laughs your way, jump on the chance to keep her happy and smiling forever more.Then and only then will the gates of glory will open wide. Make it your life long lesson of making someone happy.
I know, I just realized today that I was totally in love the whole time, what a fuking joke I am.
When I accidentally saw the record of our conversation when we first chat on line messager , I realized that she and I, we have so much connections with each other, the emotion was so intense that I can't bear to read it anymore. Yes, she was THE woman that knock my socks off, and I fuked up!
Hang in there OP. I'm two months into my breakup and I still feel pain. She dumped me even though I thought we were totally compatible and I never got angry/mad with her. Everybody heals at different rates but remember that this time will pass and we will both feel whole again.
Sure we will never forget but in time hopefully we will both find someone new who makes our old girlfriends a distant memory.
I know, I just realized today that I was totally in love the whole time, what a fuking joke I am.
When I accidentally saw the record of our conversation when we first chat on line messager , I realized that she and I, we have so much connections with each other, the emotion was so intense that I can't bear to read it anymore. Yes, she was THE woman that knock my socks off, and I fuked up!
Also don't read your old conversations. The only thing that's accomplishing is making it harder for yourself to get over her. Bringing up the good memories only ends up bringing up the heartbreak even more.
Also don't read your old conversations. The only thing that's accomplishing is making it harder for yourself to get over her. Bringing up the good memories only ends up bringing up the heartbreak even more.
Best revenge is to get over them. Delete, delete, delete.
It will get better. Seeing her with a new dude hurts like crazy but it will get better soon. Now you have realized that she will not come back and you can work with that and digest it better without the feeling of hope.
Honestly, only time heals. It will get better in time. That I can promise you. I can't promise you anything else. Sometimes someone might say something that for the time being, will put things into perspective; however, those feelings are usually short lived. Your acceptance level will come and go. Some days will be better than others. But remember, you weren't right for each other. That's the feeling that you need to keep going back to, no matter how you feel. This feeling will pass.
Try not to focus on her so much. If you do, try to remember the bad more. You're young and you will bounce back. You weren't with her that long.
you will have to learn that all relationships are by nature temporary. and since this is the case, you will have to learn to get over a relationship that ends.
I have been where you are and it's not a good place, so a few pointers may help. You need to de-sensitize yourself to her memory, because that is all she is right now. Get angry. Cuss her out. She couldn't have been all that. I found the most unflattering photo of my ex that I could find and posted it on the mirror. "OK, you ugly black-hearted witch, what did I EVER see in you?"
We as men idealize women to the point of absurdity through movies, novels, religion, art, geez the list is endless. Your job is to mentally navigate through this and put yourself back together.
Allow for the possibility that your next lady will be ten times better, and work on improving yourself to get ready for such a person.
And lastly, don't fall into the trap of blaming women in general for your situation. They didn't choose her, you did.
Now the Sisterhood on here is not going to like my advice but I think we both can deal with that.
3 months?? Sounds like a bad one. If you aren't over it by now you probably will never be completely over it. Seek professional help.
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