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Can you sell both your houses and either build onto his house or build a brand-new one? If neither of you wants to move, you sound stuck.
I can sell both my houses. Actually I am hoping to sell one in the spring. My kids would like to keep the one we are in now, but I bought it knowing that it could be flipped for a profit.
BF yesterday did tell me all of his debts and said eventually I would end up on his farm with him. He did not go into details and I did not ask.
His house is not a candidate for an addition. I am not sure about investing my money to build a house on someone else's property. If something happened, the money would be gone.
I can sell both my houses. Actually I am hoping to sell one in the spring. My kids would like to keep the one we are in now, but I bought it knowing that it could be flipped for a profit.
BF yesterday did tell me all of his debts and said eventually I would end up on his farm with him. He did not go into details and I did not ask.
His house is not a candidate for an addition. I am not sure about investing my money to build a house on someone else's property. If something happened, the money would be gone.
Welcome to marriage. If you want your money to stay yours and he wants his money to stay his, maybe living separately is best.
Welcome to marriage. If you want your money to stay yours and he wants his money to stay his, maybe living separately is best.
It is not just a his money and my money issue. He has a very large farm that has been in his family for centuries. His children will one day inherit this farm. If I pay to build a house on the property, his children will one day inherit the house and my children would not get anything.
You mentioned in your reply to me that there are 2 houses on his property, elaborate on this, as you did not mention that anywhere else...
Why can't one of them be demolished, or the kids live in it. I'm sure they would love that... farmhouse freak down!
Other family members live in the original farm house. His plan is to buy them out eventually. His house is 16 years old, and not even completely paid for, so It is not something he will tear down.
Other family members live in the original farm house. His plan is to buy them out eventually. His house is 16 years old, and not even completely paid for, so It is not something he will tear down.
So it's not uncommon for zoning laws to limit you to 2 houses on a given piece of property. That's pretty standard.
You can ususally apply for what's called a "zoning variance" which will allow it. It's a formal process.
Also, what's with the other family members living in the other house, what's the long term plan for those people?
So it's not uncommon for zoning laws to limit you to 2 houses on a given piece of property. That's pretty standard.
You can ususally apply for what's called a "zoning variance" which will allow it. It's a formal process.
Also, what's with the other family members living in the other house, what's the long term plan for those people?
No idea, at this point it is not my business to know. I do think they just aggravate him. He has mentioned previously that one day his boys will live in the farmhouse. So I guess his kids will inherit the existing houses for when they have families? Seems reasonable.
I doubt you will need to consider these options. I think this relationship will self-destruct far before this is an issue.
We shall see.
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