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He is controlling, and it will just get worse. I don't see anything wrong with going out with friends, and I think flirting is natural, now people will say once married no one should flirt, notice others etc, but I think it is normal. I am sure women notice my husband, heck he probably even talks to women when he is out with friends, but I trust him, and vice versa. People who go on about never flirting or noticing others, are usually the ones who are cheating themselves. I go out dancing with friends, and I am much older than you are! I like to dance and hang out with the girls once in a while. Isolating you from friends, telling you how to dress, and what you can or cannot do, is controlling. I presume you were like this when he married you. This is a problem I think, people marry someone thinking they can change them.
Me me me me me!!!!!
your post is all over the place in logic, but this is all it speaks of
So what was your point for getting married? You could have remained single and been living the Caribbean life whatever thats supposed to mean. You know darn good and well that wouldnt work if it was him doing the caribbean thing. The only person you should be hot and spicy for is your husband. Sounds like your trying to make him jealous and then on his case when he is. You both should be heading your own way. Your not what he really needs and thats TROUBLE with a capital T. Sorry no sympathy here. Really sick of the mentality of nothing changes when you get married except the residence.
Absolutely tremendous post and I 100% agree. I could NEVER be married to someone like her. The husband has every right to be concerned.
So what was your point for getting married? You could have remained single and been living the Caribbean life whatever thats supposed to mean. You know darn good and well that wouldnt work if it was him doing the caribbean thing. The only person you should be hot and spicy for is your husband. Sounds like your trying to make him jealous and then on his case when he is. You both should be heading your own way. Your not what he really needs and thats TROUBLE with a capital T. Sorry no sympathy here. Really sick of the mentality of nothing changes when you get married except the residence.
I think things change when you get married, but you are who you are. If she liked going out dancing with friends before, she can't like it now and go? If you like say guys trips to go play golf, you should just give that up? You can't try to " parent' your partner and tell them what they can and can't do. It's about compromise. Maybe she doesn't go every weekend out with friends and goes every few weeks, or whatever. Maybe they go shopping together to pick clothes, but he shouldn't tell her what to wear. She shouldn't make him jealous and tell him about other guys that are " sweet" on her, and that is for her to work on. All that being said, I think the op is too young to be married, I don't think people are seriously ready to settle down until late 20's, early 30's, but that is just my opinion. The op should think about if she does really want to be married. But that doesn't change the fact her husband does sound controlling.
Women like her marry for financial security (and in some cases for assistance with the deserted offspring of the fly-by-nights they dress up 'risky' for). In that case the husband is just a bill-payer, while she dresses like a **** just to get attention from the real men she desires while out and about. This is also what's happening on those 'girls nights out'.
The worst thing this guy did was marry her and expect to become Mister Lawmaker. She is who she is, and as long as there are men in the world to make eyes at she will continue to be who she is (and all the 'sorta married'-types like her).
This is what happens when you get married too young and don't get the slutiness out of your system.
LOL. That and her husband is not only controlling he is also possessive. I would really be alarmed about this. This always lead to domestic abuse. Especially when he is breaking things. For now, next time it will be your face. Sorry but OP what you have described about your husband's attitude is so textbook.
I would really really advice you to be careful and if he hit you once, LEAVE. If you stay, then good luck with your life.
OP, was he like that when you were dating or engaged? Any sign of what you were getting into before you married him? And just out of curiosity, what did you do with all those Christmas clothes you didn't like--did you return them for a refund?
One more question: are you from a part of the Caribbean that's a US territory, or did you need to marry him to get to or stay in the US?
he does seem a bit controlling.. but you also seem like you are still kind of trying to live the single life...why do you need guy friends? and why are you talking to a guy that is sweet on you on the phone when you are married?
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