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I think part of the problem could be looking at too much porn
I think this is your problem right here. Not only will this cause you to have unreasonable standards of attraction porn can also desensitize you attraction in reality so to speak. In essence your body craves watching things online because of the quick release and ease of doing so, not entirely unlike drugs. The more you feed the cycle the more porn you need to watch to get any sort of sexual release.
Stop looking at porn and maybe your situation will change.
I am the same way.initial physical attraction is driving force for me to find out more about the guy.If I can't picture myself french kissing the guy then forget it
I'm the same way. Last date the guy was handsome, too old, but his mouth was jacked and coffee stained. Just couldn't see myself wanting a make-out session with him.
I find people attractive, but it is much harder to be attracted. Not sure why. I guess I don't click in that way with everyone.
They can seem friendly, intelligent and all of the other attributes I look for but there is no chemistry or whatever. I guess in my old age I need more interactions to actually be interested.
This literally happened now. A person I am interested in now, I met months ago, didn't "notice" him in that way. We started talking in a more personal way and I did a full 180. But I found him attractive initially. Just no interest. Maybe I was distracted?
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I find people attractive, but it is much harder to be attracted. Not sure why. I guess I don't click in that way with everyone.
They can seem friendly, intelligent and all of the other attributes I look for but there is no chemistry or whatever. I guess in my old age I need more interactions to actually be interested.
This literally happened now. A person I am interested in now, I met months ago, didn't "notice" him in that way. We started talking in a more personal way and I did a full 180. But I found him attractive initially. Just no interest. Maybe I was distracted?
I think this is the norm for the vast majority of people. Finding someone physically attractive (which lots of people call "attractive") is a far far cry from being attracted to them.
It's really frustrating when you meet someone that have what you're looking for and you find physically appealing, but it isn't there.
I think part of the problem could be looking at too much porn
Take a break then. I think that might be part of the problem as well. After you take a few months off, see how you feel.
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