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Yup, late 20s (28--soon to be 29 in a few weeks ).
We were together about 9 months. It has been just over 3 months. I jumped into dating RIGHT after the breakup, thinking that was a better option than sitting around by myself all the time. In retrospect, I wish I would have waited awhile. I've been hanging out with one of the guys I met shortly after jumping back into dating. I was keeping him at a distance for the past 2 months or so- hanging out infrequently, doing very casual activities like happy hours, and shooting down his requests to hang out more. He finally approached me about it last weekend. He wants to keep hanging out but only if we start to hang out more and do more "couply" activities like make dinner together, watch movies, or hang out at home. He knows my situation and was treading lightly but it reached the point where he wants to get to know me more/better but can't if things stayed as casual as I was making them be.
I thought for a week and we had a talk yesterday. I'm going to give it a chance. I realize I could get hurt again (that scares me) or that I might have to hurt him (that scares me too). But the dumbest thought I realized I had was that by starting something with someone new, it meant the door was officially closed on my ex. I feel stupid because I know that, but a small subconscious part of me thought if I was still available, he'd come around and we'd be good to go. Moving on is tough. And it sucks. But I'm trying.
The door isn't officially closed until one of you gets married. However, waiting around for him isn't healthy. I'm glad you're giving dating another shot. After all, you want to be with someone who actually wants to be with you. Good luck!
My first real relationship was my daughter's mom. We've known each other since high school and are still friends to this day! She has a boyfriend whom she's been with for 6 years now, but wants to break up with him 'cause he's a "Mama's Boy" (he is). We've been discussing getting back together - I've been married, divorced, had a girlfriend briefly and a couple of FWBs. Our daughter is grown now and we're grandparents of a 6-yo girl. I think deep inside, there's still some flame.
Been a year and a half, still not long enough. Some people, they stay with you.. you just can't shake. We were together for six years (from age 22 to 28 for me). I think about him everyday, even though I know things worked out for the best. It wouldn't have lasted, I know rationally. But I still miss him.
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