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Nope, the only information that any of us know is what she has written. My impression from it is exactly what I've said.
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Originally Posted by Mindlessness
I think it is a valid concern if she is not getting the love/attention from her lover. It's quite possible that she is needy and might be overbearing, or possible her husband is neglecting her and not giving her something she needs.
"Validity" is very subjective. Again, my impression is that she needs to look more at her own words and actions rather than trying to be "validated" by a bunch of random strangers on the internet.
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There is nothing wrong with meeting needs of the person you love.
Nope, there's not, in theory. But when it becomes an expectation that the other person cannot (or doesn't want to) fulfill, we have an issue like the one in the OP.
On the one hand, I understand the need to have your husband think you are the hottest thing around. On the other hand, it seems like your husband might think that you are so full of yourself that he doesn't want to make things worse. Only he knows for sure what is going on.
I wouldn't be happy with someone that didn't think I was hot stuff - but I also wouldn't want to be with someone that always went on about how hot they were.
I get that the OP seems full of herself, but when she stated that he doesn't even look at her when she is naked that got my attention. How many men do you know who wouldn't look and make some type of positive comment? It almost seems that he is trying too hard to make her work for it. Ugh. Yes, it is hard to know from the internet exactly what is going on, but if she truly is needy didn't he know that when he married her? Shouldn't he try to assuage her insecurities if he loves her?
I get that the OP seems full of herself, but when she stated that he doesn't even look at her when she is naked that got my attention. How many men do you know who wouldn't look and make some type of positive comment? It almost seems that he is trying too hard to make her work for it. Ugh. Yes, it is hard to know from the internet exactly what is going on, but if she truly is needy didn't he know that when he married her? Shouldn't he try to assuage her insecurities if he loves her?
Maybe he is being realistic, I mean I am guessing he is not channing tatum. Maybe all the women he thought were stunning were not into him? Kind of takes cooperation on both sides to have a romantic partnership.
Maybe he is being realistic, I mean I am guessing he is not channing tatum. Maybe all the women he thought were stunning were not into him? Kind of takes cooperation on both sides to have a romantic partnership.
I am saying why is it necessary that he thinks she is the most attractive thing around? Maybe she is the woman he settled on because he was striking out too much with the women he wanted. He obvoiusly thinks she is attractive enough to sleep with so I dont see what the issue is.
Not all guys get what they want so they take what they can get.
I am saying why is it necessary that he thinks she is the most attractive thing around? Maybe she is the woman he settled on because he was striking out too much with the women he wanted. He obvoiusly thinks she is attractive enough to sleep with so I dont see what the issue is.
Not all guys get what they want so they take what they can get.
I can't speak for anyone else but I would never marry someone who settled for me. Likewise, I would never marry someone who I was settling with. I could never make a marriage work under those circumstances.
I can't speak for anyone else but I would never marry someone who settled for me. Likewise, I would never marry someone who I was settling with. I could never make a marriage work under those circumstances.
Depends on how long you are single and how much you strike out. I am sure there are some people that could live a life of celibacy (or a bunch of cats) in liu of a relationship but not many. Its pretty rare to hear of an actual crazy cat lady, most people settle until they find someone.
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Originally Posted by Dewdroplet76
I can't speak for anyone else but I would never marry someone who settled for me. Likewise, I would never marry someone who I was settling with. I could never make a marriage work under those circumstances.
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