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My husband lost his job at the beginning of the year. Since then he's done a bit of security work and tried to start an online business. Now he's trying to get back into his old line of work, which was accounting. But he's not having much luck. His salary was very good before but now his income is irregular and he doesn't bring in as much as he used to.
I don't think I can go on like this and I keep telling him to try harder, which he says he is, but I don't see any change. He's currently working a part time job but he tends to stay behind a lot to socialize so not only is he not bringing in the bacon like he used to, now he's not even around that much.
If this continues I can't see a future for our marriage. I've spoken to a lawyer but I don't have any plans to do anything hasty. I'll probably see how he does. I'd like to see him earning much more than he currently is but I don't know what to say to him any more.
Can you tell us more? Is your household struggling as a result of the drop in income? Do you already work full-time? Are you feeling that he is not helping to "carry the weight" financially?
As far as accounting goes, that is basically a dying field. If he cant get on with a major corporation then most individuals just do their own taxes with HR block or some other company like that for like 20$ and also get audit protection. For most W2 employees this is fine. He could also try to build up a client list of small business owners but the problem with that is unless they are involved in some kind of complex tax issues most of all his earnings will be around tax time so he wont have stead income. I don't suspect most mom and pops have very much complex stuff going on. If I were in accounting and I were not near retirement I would consider totally changing fields.
Last edited by PJSaturn; 11-03-2015 at 12:37 PM..
Reason: Personal attack.
As far as accounting goes, that is basically a dying field. If he cant get on with a major corporation then most individuals just do their own taxes with HR block or some other company like that for like 20$ and also get audit protection. For most W2 employees this is fine. He could also try to build up a client list of small business owners but the problem with that is unless they are involved in some kind of complex tax issues most of all his earnings will be around tax time so he wont have stead income. I don't suspect most mom and pops have very much complex stuff going on. If I were in accounting and I were not near retirement I would consider totally changing fields.
A dying field? Every single business in existence needs its books done.
I have been where you were. My husband lost his job through no fault of his own. We were only months old married but I never left him. And to think when he lost his job, there was literally no income coming in coz I was not working then. We survived by him doing painting/construction jobs from his bro in law and his unemployment check.
He was definitely not a happy camper during those times coz he is the type that does not like just laying around the house.
We are in a good place now both employed, in a house he bought. So this too shall pass. Mod cut.
Last edited by PJSaturn; 11-03-2015 at 12:42 PM..
Reason: Personal attacks.
I have been where you were. My husband lost his job through no fault of his own. We were only months old married but I never left him. And to think when he lost his job, there was literally no income coming in coz I was not working then. We survived by him doing painting/construction jobs from his bro in law and his unemployment check.
He was definitely not a happy camper during those times coz he is the type that does not like just laying around the house.
We are in a good place not both employed, in a house he bought. So this too shall pass. [snip]
Where are you getting this?
You don't even know if she works or not, if they have kids, etc.
She has the right to be frustrated with the situation.
To the OP; When poverty walks in the door, love flies out the window. That is just the way it is. Being supportive doesn't mean indefinitely supporting him if he is physically and mentally capable of financially supporting himself.
I have been where you are.
If he has time to socialize with the gang after work, he has time to look for a better job or at least come home and take some of the burden off of you around the house.
Thank you.
If the roles were reversed and he worked and she didn't people would not be so understanding.
My husband lost his job at the beginning of the year. Since then he's done a bit of security work and tried to start an online business. Now he's trying to get back into his old line of work, which was accounting. But he's not having much luck. His salary was very good before but now his income is irregular and he doesn't bring in as much as he used to.
I don't think I can go on like this and I keep telling him to try harder, which he says he is, but I don't see any change. He's currently working a part time job but he tends to stay behind a lot to socialize so not only is he not bringing in the bacon like he used to, now he's not even around that much.
If this continues I can't see a future for our marriage. I've spoken to a lawyer but I don't have any plans to do anything hasty. I'll probably see how he does. I'd like to see him earning much more than he currently is but I don't know what to say to him any more.
lol.
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Originally Posted by mochamajesty
Where are you getting this?
You don't even know if she works or not, if they have kids, etc.
She has the right to be frustrated with the situation.
Oh come on. Even if she does work, what the hell?
oh, and "bringing in the bacon" - yeah "she" sounds so frustrated
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