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Maybe it's just me and I may be a bit jaded or fearful of money when it comes to women, but after my last relationship experience, which I posted about before on here:
I was wondering what your thoughts on the issue were in case the relationship went sour? In my experience I have quite a bit more money than the average woman my age it seems. Mostly I saved up a lot and worked a over the last decade, to buy a house and make movies with since I am an aspiring filmmaker trying to break into the business, which costs money.
But even when I mention the word pre-nup to both my women and men friends, they act like it's a sin to ask that of your spouse, or if you do, it means you don't really love her! They said they would never sign one, nor never ask, and I am out of line for thinking that way.
But what do you think? Is it fair to ask in circumstances, just in case something goes sour, and yet at the same time, it can still be fair of your partner, especially if you happen to have a lot more money than him/her?
I have 0 interest in ever getting married. However, if the impossible happened & I ever did, I would INSIST on a pre-nup. It's just common sense - you need to protect yourself financially so you don't get screwed. I think both women & men need to have this.
And, anyone that says you're over-reacting regarding this is both a tool & a moron.
When I was younger I probably would have been offended as I had a more idealistic view of life and love. Now...I don't see it as a big deal and honestly I think it is a good idea. To me its just a plan, if needed, to avoid later conflict.
You are stingy. That's the problem. It will haunt you for the rest of your life.
I'd rather be stingy & doing relatively well financially, than living in a cardboard box underneath a bridge because an ex-wife screwed me out of my life's savings!
Okay thanks. How am I stingy exactly though? What do you mean exactly? My friends are younger than me though and I admit I somehow wound up in a younger generation circle, so that could be why my opinion is different, or that might not have anything to do with it.
I have an older friend who's parents learned the hard way he said and he agrees with me. But how am I stingy exactly?
But even when I mention the word pre-nup to both my women and men friends, they act like it's a sin to ask that of your spouse, or if you do, it means you don't really love her! They said they would never sign one, nor never ask, and I am out of line for thinking that way.
But what do you think? Is it fair to ask in circumstances, just in case something goes sour, and yet at the same time, it can still be fair of your partner, especially if you happen to have a lot more money than him/her?
How old are your friends?
Pren-ups itself isn't really a big deal, but I've heard of some terms that were ridiculous-- and definitely worthy of such reactions. I would support it and be pragmatic about it (like having a lawyer check it up before signing).
They are in their mid 20s and I am 31, but even my ex, who I almost got married to before problems started was 38 and she was appalled literally, when I asked her, before it ended. Is wanting to keep 140k of my own money for a down payment on a house and my filmmaking career ridiculous, especially if I saved it up for that purpose?
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