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A young woman in the club approached me, complimented my clothing, and bought me my next drink. She was out with 3 guy friends trying to cheer up one of them that just got out of a relationship by being his wing woman. None of them were with her, she was the “leader” of that group. She is single. I introduced myself and bought shots for everyone. I got accepted into the group on account of my status in the community but went back and forth between groups. Over 3 hours she bought me 4 drinks, we danced to several songs and I learned that she knew how to Tango so we created a scene and at one point we were the only ones dancing. We grinded and I kissed her and she put her hands over my neck while I hugged her lower back. Everyone else could just watch. It was karaoke night and we were supposed to sing the next song together. She complimented my dance moves and said I was damn smooth. She said she would be right back and the next thing I know her and her group are gone.
In my mind this was a rejection, but some of my lady friends in the club think that maybe she got too drunk and forgot to come back (lol yeah right) or that she had to take care of one of her friends (lol) or that she was peer pressured into leaving or that she got scared of the prospect of hooking up.
I never got so far and been rejected, I don’t play the numbers game approaching everything that moves. I scope out who would be receptive to me based on verbal and non verbal communication and filter out those who would just be a waste of time for me or for them. So the people I do approach or approach me generally do well together after interest is confirmed after a normal conversation.
I'm wondering if any men or women here have gotten that far and got "buyers remorse" and left abruptly.
I don't think it was rejection, I think she went back and found them in the process of leaving or something, maybe when she left you she went into the bathroom and puked, then wanted to leave, who knows, but I would not say it's about you. I think it's about how much she was drinking.
Are you denying that one's status in the community affects the types of people one can effectively get acquainted with? The purpose of adding it in was to show that a group of strangers welcomed me to join them in the festivities. Like there was a homeless man outside of the club listening to the music, he did not have sufficient status in the community to party with strangers within the club. His attempts of joining groups of people outside of the club were quickly rebuffed. Likewise, a club goer can have a lot of money but not be welcomed by unacquainted groups of people.
Yep, I've heard stories about how FB is creating a new phenomenon that therapists are seeing now and I can't recall all of the details, but basically people appear to be living such fab lives via FB and other social media that it's now causing a form of depression among people who feel like they can't keep up with everyone else's fabulous lives.
LOL, It's all malarkey, everyone has bad days and I don't buy half the stuff I see here and elsewhere.
I get that some people do live fascinating lives, but I also get that we don't always see the rest of their lives, the bad days....
It is so interesting how this edited social media perception becomes what people think is reality. My social media self posts a lot of what I am reading (interesting articles), funny stuff I saw or overheard, and then pictures of what I am eating and drinking on the weekend. Recently I saw a younger relative I haven't seen since he was a toddler, now he is a young adult. Based on my Facebook posts he thought my life must be "amazing." Then we started talking about reality. While I am doing pretty well in my career, life is expensive and I live in an average apartment. My bike is really awesome though.
But people are fooled often. I am not going to post on social media that my coworkers are annoying me or my innermost thoughts. Or super negative stuff because that doesn't make sense!
Maybe she just went to the club for a good time with friends, drinks, and a bit of dancing... no more no less. That's exactly what she found but is not interested in anything more in regards to new relationships/connections.
I know guys who do this... but most of them would at least says good bye before disappearing.
Sounds like you had a good time.... another page of fun memories. I'd just leave it at that rather than analyze it. Never know if your paths cross again.
A young woman in the club approached me, complimented my clothing, and bought me my next drink. She was out with 3 guy friends trying to cheer up one of them that just got out of a relationship by being his wing woman. None of them were with her, she was the “leader” of that group. She is single. I introduced myself and bought shots for everyone. I got accepted into the group on account of my status in the community but went back and forth between groups. Over 3 hours she bought me 4 drinks, we danced to several songs and I learned that she knew how to Tango so we created a scene and at one point we were the only ones dancing. We grinded and I kissed her and she put her hands over my neck while I hugged her lower back. Everyone else could just watch. It was karaoke night and we were supposed to sing the next song together. She complimented my dance moves and said I was damn smooth. She said she would be right back and the next thing I know her and her group are gone.
In my mind this was a rejection, but some of my lady friends in the club think that maybe she got too drunk and forgot to come back (lol yeah right) or that she had to take care of one of her friends (lol) or that she was peer pressured into leaving or that she got scared of the prospect of hooking up.
I never got so far and been rejected, I don’t play the numbers game approaching everything that moves. I scope out who would be receptive to me based on verbal and non verbal communication and filter out those who would just be a waste of time for me or for them. So the people I do approach or approach me generally do well together after interest is confirmed after a normal conversation.
I'm wondering if any men or women here have gotten that far and got "buyers remorse" and left abruptly.
You read too much into the situation, I see it all the time. She was out drinking and having fun. They wanted to hit the next bar and they left. She probably does this all the time. If she wanted more, she would have given you her number or taken you along.
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