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My wife has a good sense of humor in general but sometimes if I make a lighthearted joke she says that i'm being sexist or misogynist. I don't agree at all. She's being way oversensitive and sometimes I think she's just looking for an argument. Sometimes if I make a criticism or give my honest opinion about something that she said or did, she says the same thing. Apart from this we get on great but it bothers me that she has this strange fixation on people's comments and what she thinks they really mean. Occasionally she goes so far with it that it gets extremely tiresome.
So my question is, what would you define as misogynist?
My wife has a good sense of humor in general but sometimes if I make a lighthearted joke she says that i'm being sexist or misogynist. I don't agree at all. She's being way oversensitive and sometimes I think she's just looking for an argument. Sometimes if I make a criticism or give my honest opinion about something that she said or did, she says the same thing. Apart from this we get on great but it bothers me that she has this strange fixation on people's comments and what she thinks they really mean. Occasionally she goes so far with it that it gets extremely tiresome.
So my question is, what would you define as misogynist?
I'm sure you know it has an actual definition.
Where to draw the line when telling jokes should be worked out between you and your wife.
My wife has a good sense of humor in general but sometimes if I make a lighthearted joke she says that i'm being sexist or misogynist. I don't agree at all. She's being way oversensitive and sometimes I think she's just looking for an argument. Sometimes if I make a criticism or give my honest opinion about something that she said or did, she says the same thing. Apart from this we get on great but it bothers me that she has this strange fixation on people's comments and what she thinks they really mean. Occasionally she goes so far with it that it gets extremely tiresome.
So my question is, what would you define as misogynist?
Well, I suppose I could give an opinion..IF you would spell out your lighted hearted comment you actually made she took offence over. It's defined ( misogynist) by many terms..chauvinistic, women-hater, sexist, or anti-feminist. But often what comes out of male's mouth is just plain rudeness ( depending on how it's said) then of course when and where it occurs.
How would like your wife to describe out new pants as showing of your big butt, eh? Or if she belittles YOU infroont of your friends, or make fun of you regarding less than penitrating person during intimacy? You see, it could work both ways IF you have sensitivities about something about you which is NOT perfect!
But then thought about quite differently...Men call women like that "Feminist "
but men can also act out similarly against another man... Misandry - Psychology Wiki - Wikia
I guess my point is..this IS something you have to deal with yourself with your life..You have learned she is made to feel ridiculed..which often ends up getting such comments yu described..So learn from it..try to respect her "sensitivity"..since you apparently appreciate most of her attributes..and guess what..she has no doubt has avoided making hurtful commentary when answering your questions..that's simply call respectful..Figure out IF your relationship is based on totally honesty..or occasionally show some restraint..It goes along way. Calling out isn't beneficial in the long run in "Interpersonal Relationships" IMO
Best of luck figuring out that line not to be crossed.
Constructive criticism often turns out to be more beneficial in the end. Jokes, laughing at isn't cool!
You are definitely not a misogynist. And next time she accuses you of being one - let her know this. Say something like, "No, I'm not a misogynist it's jut that you are irrational because women are irrational." Or perhaps, "No, I'm not a misogynist. Now quit thinking that. If I wanted a spouse who thinks, I would have married a man." Or maybe, "No, I'm not a misogynist. I'm the man of the house and what I say goes so quit calling me a misogynist."
Today misogyny is a shaming term, primarily used on the internet, to label and discredit any male that does not walk the feminist line.
Disagreeing with a woman on a variety of topics can quickly lead to you being called a misogynist, whether or not you were actually being sexist or being "hateful of women."
The phrase is such a catch all I just ignore and move forward because if you address it, you've already lost the argument. And that's the point. To get you to address the accusation rather than the discussion at hand.
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I'm guessing they might be too damning? 