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She has two kids? Simple; she's interested in you now because she needs a good, reliable guy to help her raise the kids. She wasn't into reliable guys until after she got pregnant, and the kids' father/s flaked. So she's into you, now.
Move on. It's not you she's into, it's your steady-guy-ness, and your paycheck.
She has two kids? Simple; she's interested in you now because she needs a good, reliable guy to help her raise the kids. She wasn't into reliable guys until after she got pregnant, and the kids' father/s flaked. So she's into you, now.
Move on. It's not you she's into, it's your steady-guy-ness, and your paycheck.
This is really a question you have to ask yourself. Are you still interested in her? Or do you just want the sense of achievement that you finally got the girl? Let things play out naturally and see where it goes. But REMEMBER she has (I'm assuming) 2 kids now. Are you ready to take the role of being a father? If so are you ok with the fact that those aren't your own children?
There was a girl at school that I really liked for about 2 years. We got on very well and she liked my company and I liked being around her. She was pretty smart but she kept going out with what I can only describe as the idiots of our year, by that I mean the ones that got into trouble a lot. I told her many times that she'd be better off with me but she said that she didn't want to ruin our friendship.
So I said to her one day that if she values our friendship so much, what is her dating the delinquents based on? If there's not much friendship to value with them, then what's the point? I also said that us going out would make our friendship better, and that if she really thinks it's going to be ruined then there can't be much of a friendship in the first place. I said none of it makes sense. It's not that she wasn't attracted to me (she said she was), but that she just couldn't see me in the same way. She couldn't explain it even though I tried and tried to get her to.
So she friend-zoned you while she chased after the bad boys in school? 10 years later, you are older, wiser - and I assume more successful - and she has been run through by the bad boys who abandoned her with 2 kids and bills to pay. It's easy to see what's happening here.
The feelings you had for her were based on superficial infatuation. You were judging a book by its cover. You don't truly love someone until you get to know them.
There was a girl at school that I really liked for about 2 years. We got on very well and she liked my company and I liked being around her. She was pretty smart but she kept going out with what I can only describe as the idiots of our year, by that I mean the ones that got into trouble a lot. I told her many times that she'd be better off with me but she said that she didn't want to ruin our friendship.
So I said to her one day that if she values our friendship so much, what is her dating the delinquents based on? If there's not much friendship to value with them, then what's the point? I also said that us going out would make our friendship better, and that if she really thinks it's going to be ruined then there can't be much of a friendship in the first place. I said none of it makes sense. It's not that she wasn't attracted to me (she said she was), but that she just couldn't see me in the same way. She couldn't explain it even though I tried and tried to get her to.
At that point I decided to stop pursuing her and I moved on. I continued hanging out with her but I completely switched off any hope of anything else happening. It was hard at first but I managed it. I went to college and moved out, and 10 years have passed. I've seen her around a few times but other than that I've had no contact with her.
The other day I was out with a couple of guys from school that I still occasionally see, and she happened to be there. I was pleasantly surprised. We chatted, talked about this and that, and I noticed that she was flirting with me. It was both familiar and strange. Familiar because I'd seen her do it so many times with the types of guys that she hung out with back in the day, but strange that she was doing it with me.
Before I left she asked me if I would come over to her place the next evening, and in the moment I said yes, but afterwards I wondered why she would ask me. Maybe she was interested in me or maybe she just wanted to catch up not knowing when we'd meet again. To be honest a lot of time has passed and the idea of going out with her isn't as exciting to me in the same way as it once may have been. It was nice to think that she might be interested, kind of like a sense of "finally!" but really I don't know. It's been a very long time. I thought maybe I could do some catching up and get reacquainted and maybe have some sort of friendship again but I don't know about anything else. I didn't rule out the possibility of dating but it was quite a surprise that she wanted to see me.
So the next day I went over to her place. It was pleasant. She's got a couple of kids, but I only saw one of them as the other was asleep. I was there for about 3 hours and we had quite a nice time. Again, she flirted quite a bit. Then I went home and half an hour later (while I was still on my way home) she sent me a message saying that she regrets not having given me a chance. I haven't replied. I really don't know what to say. This was 3 days ago.
What I don't want is to go out with her just for the sense of achievement. As much as it would feed my ego to be able to say yeah, I finally did it, that would be wrong. And besides, I don't even understand why she's suddenly so interested. It's been a long time. I can understand her having feelings of fondness (as do I) but I just found it odd how she was acting. It was nice, but unusual.
So now I'm wondering whether or not to meet her again, or if I should just let it go.
she likes bad boys...period
she realized after spitting out a clown car full of kids with different baby daddys that bad boys don't usually make good fathers/providers...woops...too late
so now, she finally needs a good provider...whoa, lookee lookee, here you are again, out of the blue
the taste for bad boys NEVER goes away...be forwarned
She's looking for a new dad to take care of the idiot's kids. Run fast. Run far.
AMEN!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
FOR THE LOVE OF GOD OP GET THE HELL AWAY FROM THAT!!!!
cant believe this wasn't the FIRST response...oh well, at least it was on the first page...common sense DOES eventually pop up LOL
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