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Originally Posted by funymann
I wonder how many sighs this guy hears during the day? Or how many times she stops working to check FB or texts? She must be a joy to work with.
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Nothing wrong with imagining such things if that is what you want to do - but I personally prefer to just go on the information I have - without making stuff up myself. And there is no mention of any of this in the OP.
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Originally Posted by funymann
If I were him I'd hire a hot babe to work with me in that small truck. Yeah, she'd be really upset about that I'm sure.
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Sounds like a pretty malicious approach to life. I can merely be thankfully I do not share it.
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Originally Posted by Heart_Song
That's the impression I got from the OP. It sounded like teen-age whining to me.
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In a world where many many many people get to spend entire weekends off work with their loved one - I genuinely can not see how to describe this girl wanting "One day off" to spend with her husband outside of work as being "whining". Perhaps you are just hearing what you want to hear really.
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Originally Posted by ellie
The OP's husband probably took out an enormous loan to get the business going and needs his wife to pitch in to get the business established. I imagine he's stressed out and afraid to miss a day of potential income.
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"Imaging" being the key word in your post there. We simply have no idea what the financial situation of the business currently is. We DO know from the OP however that she DID help him get the business established and she HAS pitched in a lot. There is no onus on her to do any of that - yet she did - the question now simply becomes how can she be best facilitated to now step back - and get on with her own life. Yet this is a conversation that - judging by the OPs story - the man in question is not willing to engage in. And that is NOT a good thing. And so I think we agree.....
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Originally Posted by ellie
The only thing that will save her relationship is better communication on both sides.
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...... this is probably the one thing most true on the entire thread.
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Originally Posted by oceangaia
Neither did she say (or even imply) that she wanted to work for anyone else in any other job.
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Exactly my point - so jumping to ANY conclusions here is clearly unwarranted. That is the point I am making - so nice of you to make it too.
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Originally Posted by oceangaia
She's whining about not having enough time with friends so clearly she is wanting to use some of that time for hanging with friends not working for someone else.
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Hardly whining at all. You are projecting now. She mentioned them once - in a short sentence - and nothing more. You too are hearing what you want to here - and ascribing tone to suit what you want to hear. Actually work-life balance is something MANY people struggle with - and seek help with - and the OP has no less right to express that than anyone else without being labelled as whining.
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Originally Posted by oceangaia
She doesn't want to do her share in the work of this business (and support is more than "yay, you go get 'em, honey") but I'll bet she has no problem sharing the profits.
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What "share" is this. Just because his chosen career involves owning his own business - does not mean she has any onus _at all_ to work in that business. It is a job like any other job. And most of us have nothing to do with our partners job or career. Why should this be different when you own your own business? The only "share" she should have in it - is one of her own choosing.
She has already been supportive and done a share by helping so hard in getting him established in that business. There are innumerable ways to support your partner in life without directly working for them or with them too. Yet you act like him starting a business automatically places obligations on her in some way. It does not.
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Originally Posted by oceangaia
Maybe they could sign some kind of agreement where he does all the work and the business is his separate non-marital property?
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That would be up to them but I would see no benefit of it. For example in couples where one partner works and one stays at home - do they do this? Why is it suddenly magically different from any other job merely because he himself owns the business? It - like any job - is his chosen career path and one of the possible streams of money into the household. Nothing wrong with that, except when you try to force it to be something else.
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Originally Posted by Calvert Hall '62
Maybe if this business enjoys more success, he'll be able to hire someone. Maybe one day he'll own a fleet of these trucks. But for now he needs her help to get over the hump.
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We do not know any of that at this time. The OP said nothing about the financial situation of the business currently. We simply have no idea of whether he is currently in a position to hire or not. All we know is "It has been successful" - "he needs help" - and when she tries to discuss hiring someone he angrily shuts down conversation.
Those are the only facts we have there. Anything else is merely from your own imagination until the OP tells us more.
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