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Personally I tell every woman I've had a relationship with that I keep up with my health and apperance and I expect them to keep up too.
You can't "expect" things from people, and make demands about them keeping up their health and appearance. People either do or they don't. If they don't and you do, it may be a mismatched relationship that isn't going to go anywhere. If someone ever told me "I keep up my health and appearance and I expect you to also" I'd laugh at them and never see them again.
When I met my girlfriend I thought she was the prettiest girl I ever met. She's still cute but she's let herself go appearance wise. It started after she moved in with me, and I feel like she's become complacent. I want her get back to how she looked before, start wearing nice clothes like she used to, and generally make more of an effort. I still dress as sharply as I did when I met her, I work out, eat proper food, and take care of my appearance, and I see no reason why she can't look after herself. When we walk down the street together it's embarrassing. I used to feel like I was the lucky one, now we just look like such a mismatch, with me dressed nicely and looking good while she's waddling along next to me looking out of shape and it's depressing. I know she can do much better. I've tried to motivate her, offered to help her choose better food to eat, pick out clothes, whatever, but she's mostly very unresponsive. She's really letting herself go and I can't picture myself with her for much longer if she doesn't pull her socks up and make an effort, for me and for herself. The lack of self respect is as much of a turn off as anything else.
You sound like a child playing house, yet have no ideal what a true adult is! It's far from a wardrobe change! ...
You can't "expect" things from people, and make demands about them keeping up their health and appearance. People either do or they don't. If they don't and you do, it may be a mismatched relationship that isn't going to go anywhere. If someone ever told me "I keep up my health and appearance and I expect you to also" I'd laugh at them and never see them again.
I DO WHAT I WANT!
I would politely like to disagree .... I can so " expect" something like this from someone in a relationship.
If they don't like it they can choose to move on. I expect a lot of things when I meet someone new.
I expect them to have a high level of self control, moral value, etc. but that's just me.
I've seen wives and husbands get lackadaisical about putting themselves together after they are comfortable. It all comes down to outlooks on each individual. I'd suggest finding a fashion she detests and going with it to make a point if you aren't comfortable just coming out and saying it. Cowboy boots and cutoff jean shorts over to her family's house should do the trick.
Lord almighty. Not sure what you are blabbering about, but none of it makes any sense. Men aren't superficial for caring about physical looks - we are biologically predisposed to choose women for their looks, because this is the way men were designed by nature.
Marriage makes women fatter? bwahahaha. No, they make themselves fatter, by eating crap and not exercising. Marriage is just a concept, it has no will of its own, to victimize poor oppressed women. The curse, right. All I'm seeing is grasping at straws, and shifting blame on something else. My god, lets grow up, shall we?
Dating and marriage tend to encourage a gain, there is a study out there somewhere. Dates revolving around food, feeling content, all that stuff. But both genders not one, and it's like 10 lbs or something.
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Trust me, it happens a lot. My ex gained 130lbs and went from 200-330lbs during our relationship. Huge issues and he didn't want to fix it. It ended up ruining our relationship
why would you stay with her if your obviously not happy? you cant force someone to change....some people just get way to comfortable in relationships and let themselves go.....
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