Divorced: How does your husband/wife's new spouse treat you? (married, guy)

[So Many Questions]

I am divorced and on occasion have to make contact with my ex wife who has now remarried. She does not give me her cell phone number so I have to call her at home. Usually her new husband answers the phone and is cold as ice to me.

I keep thinking that I should have no beef with him, my challenge was with my ex wife.

Maybe my ex wife has spent her evenings lying in bed telling him how terrible I was during our marriage. Or he just assumes that the new husband should treat the ex husband terribly.

When I have gone over to the house to pick up the kids, the ex husband is even colder to me than on the phone.

(People who know him in town tell me he is the nicest guy in the world.)

So what are typical interpersonal dynamics in something like this?

[zentropa]

My ex's wife pretends I don't exist. I have spoken to her one time in 10 years, at a family funeral. The kids don't visit because they barely tolerate her. I guess if anything it makes life uncomplicated!

[Mikala43]

I'm friendly to my husband's ex despite how I think of her as a person. He has a son and it helps keep everything drama free. I would not associate with her otherwise, she is not my type of person.

[Just A Guy]

Originally Posted by So Many Questions

I am divorced and on occasion have to make contact with my ex wife who has now remarried. She does not give me her cell phone number so I have to call her at home. Usually her new husband answers the phone and is cold as ice to me.

I keep thinking that I should have no beef with him, my challenge was with my ex wife.

Maybe my ex wife has spent her evenings lying in bed telling him how terrible I was during our marriage. Or he just assumes that the new husband should treat the ex husband terribly.

When I have gone over to the house to pick up the kids, the ex husband is even colder to me than on the phone.

(People who know him in town tell me he is the nicest guy in the world.)

So what are typical interpersonal dynamics in something like this?

Ask him what's up.

[So Many Questions]

Originally Posted by Just A Guy

Ask him what's up.

I did, and he just stared at me and then walked away.