Does anyone else find excessive confidence in women a turnoff?

[onihC]

I have a friend who did good with her academics (graduated with two majors from Princeton University) and now has a high end job in a big company. The topic of relationships came up and she told me how all men she dated were so “intimidated” by her success and she went on and on about how she studied in such a great university and how great she is doing with her job blah blah blah. I understood that men were not necessarily “intimidated” as many women loosely throw out there but I can imagine these guys were just annoyed. My wife also studied two majors and is successful at what she does but she didn’t bragged or tried to look all tough. Nothing wrong with women being confident about what they do and being proud about their achievements but bragging about it doesn’t necessarily equal confidence.

[Sonic_Spork]

Originally Posted by onihC

I have a friend who did good with her academics (graduated with two majors from Princeton University) and now has a high end job in a big company. The topic of relationships came up and she told me how all men she dated were so “intimidated” by her success and she went on and on about how she studied in such a great university and how great she is doing with her job blah blah blah. I understood that men were not necessarily “intimidated” as many women loosely throw out there but I can imagine these guys were just annoyed. My wife also studied two majors and is successful at what she does but she didn’t bragged or tried to look all tough. Nothing wrong with women being confident about what they do and being proud about their achievements but bragging about it doesn’t necessarily equal confidence.

I don't like it when men behave that way, either.

Comes back to the question of whether we are talking basic confidence or puffed up arrogance, narcissism, or egotism.

Nobody likes a jerk. Don't be a jerk.

Originally Posted by Urban Sasquatch

Started to return to this, then shook my head.

I find confidence in women as attractive as I find creativity, compassion, gentility, firmness, strength, wit, intestinal fortitude, a desire to adapt to and overcome adversity, an active sexual nature, a sly yet open smile, loyalty -- pretty much any desirable qualities denoting a great partner in life, come what may.

I think "excessive confidence" at least vaguely spells out the parameters of the question/discussion.

In the great p!$$!n@ contest of whether men or women are better, I wish we could all get along but we can't, so I don't care about the majority, just the ones who play well with others and have something to bring to the table. It's a lesson about Humanity I wish I'd wrapped my head around at a much younger age. Life would have gone quite differently.

Right on. Hey, lots of folks in these conversations wind up mentioning "the norm"...I don't know who this Norm guy is but he sounds boring as heck.

I often wonder just how much of a thing normalcy even is anymore, you know? Here we are, just all getting by, trying to figure it out, near as I can tell. You know what I like to bring to the table? An enormous collection of Cards Against Humanity and really fancy cheese and crackers.

I have a lot of confidence in my excellent taste in snacks. It has yet to fail me.

"I'm pullin' for ya. We're all in this together."
-Red Green

[arleigh]

I enjoy intelligent people, but not those that must boast them self , I'm simply not impressed with "titles" for which many work , but rely on it too much alone for approval, rather than demonstrating what they know.
Intelligent women or men are interesting to exchange knowledge with , there is substance there.
The wider the range of intelligence and experience the better.
Those that have only one story to tell, no matter how detailed, get really boring .
I listen to those with problems all the time, and we are friends, but I am just their sounding board, not much more.
Show me a person with a broad range of interests ,and interested in learning and sharing and comparing notes , and I"m happy.
Not looking for a "yes" person.
Looking for an honest person, that knows them self.

[shalmend]

I don't find confidence in women particularly attractive. I like them shy, demure, coy, and I find insecurity very endearing.