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So you ignoring her makes you feel better? Do you seriously believe this action is going to hurt her or the satisfaction you get from ignoring her is going to be long lived?
You should have blocked her from the moment of break up, revenge is never good, especially when you are the only one who knows about it.
Ignoring her does make me feel better. Post-breakup I still couldn't come to terms with the fact that she treated me poorly when I did noting but show her affection.
After all these realizations I finally understood that I could get somebody better. I'm not trying to punish her, I could care less what she is doing right now and what she is thinking. I would never take her back and it's a great feeling, especially considering how irrational I was early in the breakup.
It's just a great feeling having moved on and not succumbing to her level with personal attacks and accusations. I've deleted every shred of contact info I have on this girl. I hope she can be happy with this new guy, as they are similar types of people.
I feel like I reached the tipping point and rediscovered myself as an individual, and I know that I will never lie or disrespect any future partners that I may have.
I'm taking all the steps to move on healthily and they are finally starting to pay off. I've made new friends, do new things, go on trips all the time now and so on. While I'm having a blast she gets to stay stuck in a relationship with someone just like her. I'm not seeking revenge against her, I'm empowering myself, for myself, without her.
She's fading away as a distant memory and it feels tremendous being out of the post-breakup depression.
I'm not trying to compare myself with her. I'm just excited that I've been blessed with the opportunity to find someone more compatible with me, who won't lie to me or disrespect me.
I'm starting to relish being single. I can play the field again and not be tied down with dates, meet-ups...etc
Before I was with her it was my early college years. At the time I was in a fraternity and had a blast meeting so many new women every week. What I was doing wasting time with her I'll never know.
When someone you love hurts you, you shouldn't want to hurt them back. You should try to understand why they did what they did to gain some perspective and grow.
I know you're hurting though, so I see where you're coming from. I was there too when my first love broke my heart almost 30 years ago. We were together for just over 2 years too and she's still with the dude that she dumped me for. It still stings ever so slightly if I allow myself to dwell on it. Today is actually her 50th birthday (I was younger) and I thought about contacting her to say hi and wish her well. Not today, though. Perhaps another day.
You'll find someone and be happy again. Happier, even. That's a fact. It took me a year to meet my real soulmate and life partner.
You haven't gotten over her. Far from it. You will only begin to start getting over her when you have zero contact with her (that means her contacting you also) and can stop talking about her. From then you will have a minimum of 6 months.
I'm not trying to compare myself with her. I'm just excited that I've been blessed with the opportunity to find someone more compatible with me, who won't lie to me or disrespect me.
What you are doing is comparing the potential next girl to her.
Do yourself and the next girl a favor. Don't even think about getting with someone else until you can stop thinking like this.
You haven't gotten over her. Far from it. You will only begin to start getting over her when you have zero contact with her (that means her contacting you also) and can stop talking about her. From then you will have a minimum of 6 months.
At least I have made tremendous progress. I don't miss her and I don't want to be with her. I'm not trying to hurt her as well, I'm just not responding to her and she has no way of contacting me anymore.
I don't think it's going to be another six months, especially now that I know she isn't what I thought she was.
What you are doing is comparing the potential next girl to her.
Do yourself and the next girl a favor. Don't even think about getting with someone else until you can stop thinking like this.
All I'm saying is that when I do find another girl, I hope she doesn't do the same thing to me again. I think I'm ready to start meeting new girls anyways. If she can move on to someone in a day than I don't see why I can't in 2.5 months.
I posted this not because I was still thinking about her, but because I'd believed that I made a few great steps. I'd be willing to bet that a lot of people on this forum who have seen my last posts would think I would have made no progress anytime soon.
All I'm saying is that when I do find another girl, I hope she doesn't do the same thing to me again. I think I'm ready to start meeting new girls anyways. If she can move on to someone in a day than I don't see why I can't in 2.5 months.
See how you are still comparing yourself to your ex?
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