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If you've read any of my other posts than you would probably know that I was heartbroken and still obsessed with my ex. We dated for two years and she had an emotional affair at the very least and dated him immediately after. When I found out about the real reason's, and not the lies she told me I was torn up. I emailed her to let her know that I knew and wished her a happy life. Fast forward and she responded.
For some reason she blamed me and went on the attack, accusing me of things I never did. Basically fishing for an apology for thigs I never did. At that very second I lost any respect and feelings I had for her. It clicked and somehow in an instant I move on.
Not responding is the icing on the cake for me. I get to move forward innocent with my head held high while she has to deal with how she treated me and her transgressions. Not owning up to her actions really helped me gain perspective and made me excited to be single and ready to meet someone better.
I'm in such a better place than I was a month ago, and to everyone else who is heartbroken, it does get better. Just give it time and don't contact them.
If you've read any of my other posts than you would probably know that I was heartbroken and still obsessed with my ex. We dated for two years and she had an emotional affair at the very least and dated him immediately after. When I found out about the real reason's, and not the lies she told me I was torn up. I emailed her to let her know that I knew and wished her a happy life. Fast forward and she responded.
For some reason she blamed me and went on the attack, accusing me of things I never did. Basically fishing for an apology for thigs I never did. At that very second I lost any respect and feelings I had for her. It clicked and somehow in an instant I move on.
Not responding is the icing on the cake for me. I get to move forward innocent with my head held high while she has to deal with how she treated me and her transgressions. Not owning up to her actions really helped me gain perspective and made me excited to be single and ready to meet someone better.
I'm in such a better place than I was a month ago, and to everyone else who is heartbroken, it does get better. Just give it time and don't contact them.
I broke up with my ex a few months ago. I won't go into anything specific. But she lied too. She was also a narcissist. I moved on. She tried to contact me four times since then. I ignored all of her calls. I still care about her to some degree, but it would have never worked. You can't make it work with a narcissist. It's all about them. I took the high road and beyond calling her what she is, I never tore her apart. I met someone in church a month ago. We were always starring at each other. Last weekend, I asked her out and she agreed. We spent two nights straight together. We aren't "together" officially, but we have a lot of chemistry and have the same wants in life. So far, so good. But I am skeptical by nature, so that's all I'll say at this point.
It's best to move on regardless of how you feel if you know deep down that it would never work. Otherwise, you are just beating your head against the wall time and time again. I don't know if this new person will work out, but I'm sure it will help me heal. As selfish as that may sound. I'm already and have been thinking of her (the new girl). You know, the "what if's" in the mind.
Your ex doesn't sound good and I think that you should keep your distance and stay the course. Some people are complete soul suckers. However, you have to take part for them to suck your soul out. I should have left my ex sooner. We were together a few years, and I did love her. But her constant lies and complete narcissism took too much from me. A bad relationship if your honest with yourself will suck the life out of you. Can be more draining than anything in life. I have no idea what my ex is doing, and personally I don't care. That's a pretty good sign in my book.
Smart move on your part and good luck.
Last edited by johnnyb1980; 11-16-2015 at 04:41 PM..
That "empowerment high" is temporary. Continue healing in a positive manner if you don't wanna be on your knees again before the month is over..lol. Good luck man!
That "empowerment high" is temporary. Continue healing in a positive manner if you don't wanna be on your knees again before the month is over..lol. Good luck man!
Agree. That's why you have to truly move on for your own sake. Not to hurt her or to get back at her. If you feel the relationship would never work, then truly take the right steps to move on period. Not to get back, and certainly not to punish.
If you've read any of my other posts than you would probably know that I was heartbroken and still obsessed with my ex. We dated for two years and she had an emotional affair at the very least and dated him immediately after. When I found out about the real reason's, and not the lies she told me I was torn up. I emailed her to let her know that I knew and wished her a happy life. Fast forward and she responded.
For some reason she blamed me and went on the attack, accusing me of things I never did. Basically fishing for an apology for thigs I never did. At that very second I lost any respect and feelings I had for her. It clicked and somehow in an instant I move on.
Not responding is the icing on the cake for me. I get to move forward innocent with my head held high while she has to deal with how she treated me and her transgressions. Not owning up to her actions really helped me gain perspective and made me excited to be single and ready to meet someone better.
I'm in such a better place than I was a month ago, and to everyone else who is heartbroken, it does get better. Just give it time and don't contact them.
So you ignoring her makes you feel better? Do you seriously believe this action is going to hurt her or the satisfaction you get from ignoring her is going to be long lived?
You should have blocked her from the moment of break up, revenge is never good, especially when you are the only one who knows about it.
Yea, an ex would have no way of even getting hold of me electronically after a breakup.
Folks, if you really want to truly move on...eliminate all contact whatsoever; you will feel empowered.
Exactly. It is much easier that way.
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