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I've never had a long term partner who was a motor mouth. However, with casual dating it's almost like a night off. Much better than having a date where the conversation dies out or the person is just super quiet. After a while I'd imagine it would get tiring though.
I can make small talk and carry a conversation if the other person is quiet, but people who do all the talking bore me. I actually like comfortable silence and will let the dialogue lapse to see how it feels with that person. Comfortable silence means a kindred spirit. Now and then I meet someone who will just not shut up. I volunteered at my son's school for something and the woman with me just went on and on about her brother. I made appropriate "Mmm" and "Oh, wow" and "That's neat" noises at periodic intervals, and on and on and on she went. Now and then she'd have to pause because the task at hand needed her attention, and after that was over, she'd say, "Anyway, as I was saying ..." as if I was dying to hear the end of the story.
I've never had a long term partner who was a motor mouth. However, with casual dating it's almost like a night off. Much better than having a date where the conversation dies out or the person is just super quiet. After a while I'd imagine it would get tiring though.
I enjoy FRIENDS who are chatty more than my quiet ones, but they have to let you have a moment to chime in.
I have friends (more acquaintances now) that just run on and on like a freakin' rant. Chatty with pauses for you to talk are my favorite kind of people.
My wife is pretty quiet but will answer you if you talk to her. That's cool, too.
I've been accused of being a motor mouth, by more quiet and introverted types. I'm definitely the one who, in a discussion group or meeting, isn't afraid to speak up. Some of the discussion groups I go to, a question will get asked and everyone just sits there silently, like they are afraid to be the first to speak. I'm usually the one to break that silence.
But I like to listen, too. After I break those silences, others usually jump in and talk, and I'm happy about that and want to hear them. I don't just wait for my next chance to speak, I actively listen and enjoy the perspectives of others.
I also try to read people and catch when they are not engaged. Seeing as how my two biggest interests that I like to talk about the most are GWAR (a satirical, offensive, costumed punk/metal band) and BDSM (which if you don't know about it, you probably don't want to)....both of those topics fall solidly into the category of "NOT FOR EVERYONE." So I do have to gauge if someone is bored, uncomfortable, or disinterested.
It's harder for me on forums, where I can't see body language and there's no tone. I feel like I type long posts that might annoy some people, and I'm not always aware of how far I can go in mentioning some subjects without making people uncomfortable. For what it's worth, I encourage ANYONE, if I'm going all TMI in my line of conversation in a thread, to please tell me if I'm talking about things that bother you. I won't get upset and I'm totally willing to back away from sensitive subjects. I am not here to upset people.
EDIT: As for whether I like others who "motor mouth"...yes, as long as it's a conversational exchange and I'm not expected to just sit there and listen to a neverending monologue.
I run into far more motormouths than people who don't talk.
I can't recall how many times we'll be out somewhere, someplace like a restaurant and the next table over someone will be droning on and on and on an on and you hear the occasional mumble from the opposite side of the table.
I see this behavior all of the damn time, people just loooooove to drone on about themselves.
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