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My wife and I were on the same page we got together when I was 19 and she was 21 and we weren't ready so we went out and partied and had tons of fun then when I was 21 and she was 23 we had our son and we were happy to stay home and relax and not have that "itch" to go out and party and we are now 27 and 30 and we have every friday night off as the kids go to their grandparents and we get take out and relax in bed all night.
I believe you both have to agree when to have children or else someone is going to have resentment towards the other.
Her time has passed? She's only in her 20s. If she was in her late 30s I could understand. She's either being dramatic or is woefully uneducated about the female reproductive system as well as the state of the economy today. Kids are expensive. Tell her that 18 months is not going to make any damn difference.
Has your fiance been checked out by a doctor? If your fiance is concerned why not go see a obgyn for information? They will take her family history into account and run tests if they feel any are necessary. If there is a genuine medical reason for not waiting then you can start planning for things to happen sooner rather than later. The doctor could of course have good news for her as well.
My wife and I were on the same page we got together when I was 19 and she was 21 and we weren't ready so we went out and partied and had tons of fun then when I was 21 and she was 23 we had our son and we were happy to stay home and relax and not have that "itch" to go out and party and we are now 27 and 30 and we have every friday night off as the kids go to their grandparents and we get take out and relax in bed all night.
I believe you both have to agree when to have children or else someone is going to have resentment towards the other.
Your wife seems to be aging more quickly than you.
Has your fiance been checked out by a doctor? If your fiance is concerned why not go see a obgyn for information? They will take her family history into account and run tests if they feel any are necessary. If there is a genuine medical reason for not waiting then you can start planning for things to happen sooner rather than later. The doctor could of course have good news for her as well.
^^^^Do this.
I know two couples who went ahead and started trying to get prego before they tied the knot. One was medical reason, afraid if they waited she couldn't conceive and my brother whose wife said if they waited she might change her mind about another child (she already had one, he didnt). Kind of different circumstances but both couples are still married after 20+ years.
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