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I've been dating a girl for a few months now. A week ago we opened up about past sexual partners and she told me that while being on an international course she had intercourse with some guy there. This was a bit less than two months before we did anything. At that time (when she was on the course) we only started chatting, we haven't even gone out yet. However, I feel really pissed, obsessed and jealous. Also a few days ago I found the guy on facebook (not stalking whatsoever, just connected a few clues when I saw his profile) and now the profile has a face. I liked her from when we even started chatting and figured that since she did this she wasn't into me at all. I'm not jealous normally and hate being like this, also I've never took girls that do one-night-stands seriously and all of this is really [bleep] my head.
Should I even be remotely pissed by this? I want it to work out, but this changed my view and opinion about her.
Last edited by PJSaturn; 12-02-2015 at 08:11 PM..
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I've been dating a girl for a few months now. A week ago we opened up about past sexual partners and she told me that while being on an international course she had intercourse with some guy there. This was a bit less than two months before we did anything. At that time (when she was on the course) we only started chatting, we haven't even gone out yet. However, I feel really pissed, obsessed and jealous. Also a few days ago I found the guy on facebook (not stalking whatsoever, just connected a few clues when I saw his profile) and now the profile has a face. I liked her from when we even started chatting and figured that since she did this she wasn't into me at all. I'm not jealous normally and hate being like this, also I've never took girls that do one-night-stands seriously and all of this is really [bleep] my head.
Should I even be remotely pissed by this? I want it to work out, but this changed my view and opinion about her.
If past experience bothers you, maybe let her know that sharing each other's past is unnecessary. Some women and some men like to make their partners jealous, as long as she is not trying to play games with you and she has been loving and honest about her past, I won't worry.
To me, as a girl, I like a guy with a lot of sexual experiences. Who wants to be the guy's first? I would rather be his last. But maybe for a guy is different.
i mean, understand women play by different rules. think of it like this, if you could get sex pretty much on demand...wouldn't you have slept with way more women than you have? anyway, i'm not one to talk...i've left girls in the past because i couldn't get over their #s. i feel like, don't string her along...either find a way to get past it now, or leave.
there's no "right way to feel"...should you be bothered? the fact is, you are bothered. feelings shouldn't be felt, they just are...
I've been dating a girl for a few months now. A week ago we opened up about past sexual partners and she told me that while being on an international course she had intercourse with some guy there. This was a bit less than two months before we did anything. At that time (when she was on the course) we only started chatting, we haven't even gone out yet. However, I feel really pissed, obsessed and jealous. Also a few days ago I found the guy on facebook (not stalking whatsoever, just connected a few clues when I saw his profile) and now the profile has a face. I liked her from when we even started chatting and figured that since she did this she wasn't into me at all. I'm not jealous normally and hate being like this, also I've never took girls that do one-night-stands seriously and all of this is really [bleep] my head.
Should I even be remotely pissed by this? I want it to work out, but this changed my view and opinion about her.
Walk away and do not look back, you haven't been on an actual date and you think you have the right to be jealous?
PS ~~ You were snooping no matter what words you use to attempt to pretty it up or justify it, if any of this story is true.
I've been dating a girl for a few months now. A week ago we opened up about past sexual partners and she told me that while being on an international course she had intercourse with some guy there. This was a bit less than two months before we did anything. At that time (when she was on the course) we only started chatting, we haven't even gone out yet. However, I feel really pissed, obsessed and jealous. Also a few days ago I found the guy on facebook (not stalking whatsoever, just connected a few clues when I saw his profile) and now the profile has a face. I liked her from when we even started chatting and figured that since she did this she wasn't into me at all. I'm not jealous normally and hate being like this, also I've never took girls that do one-night-stands seriously and all of this is really [bleep]my head.
Should I even be remotely pissed by this? I want it to work out, but this changed my view and opinion about her.
Clearly you can't handle people's sexual history & won't be able to move past this. Why don't you let her go & avoid discussing sexual history with the next one.
If you're bothered, you're bothered and the cat can't go back in the bag. You're still immature about it though and this will cause you trouble over and over unless you find a "unicorn virgin".
I've been dating a girl for a few months now. A week ago we opened up about past sexual partners and she told me that while being on an international course she had intercourse with some guy there. This was a bit less than two months before we did anything. At that time (when she was on the course) we only started chatting, we haven't even gone out yet. However, I feel really pissed, obsessed and jealous. Also a few days ago I found the guy on facebook (not stalking whatsoever, just connected a few clues when I saw his profile) and now the profile has a face. I liked her from when we even started chatting and figured that since she did this she wasn't into me at all. I'm not jealous normally and hate being like this, also I've never took girls that do one-night-stands seriously and all of this is really [bleep] my head.
Should I even be remotely pissed by this? I want it to work out, but this changed my view and opinion about her.
So... she had sex with a guy without the proper courting period?
She met a guy she liked and she had sex with him. In and of itself... so? I'd say the problem isn't with this girl but rather your notion of women and sex.
One way or the other, you have to decide. If this is unacceptable to you, break it off. If you can handle it, proceed. But remember, she didn't do anything wrong, so don't hang this on her. Don't continue the relationship resentful of what she did before she even knew you. She did her part and was open with you. Now do your part and do one thing (accept it) or the other (refuse to accept it) but don't try and have both (the relationship + anger at what she did). That won't work.
Young man, nut up and get over it, the fact is you dig this young lady and that's all that really matters. There's nothing to worry about, don't waste your time thinking about others, start thinking about how to keep a smile on her face and keep her happy, because if you that fairly well, the past doesn't really matter anymore because she's with her man and you both are really happy, understand? live your life.
I've been dating a girl for a few months now. A week ago we opened up about past sexual partners and she told me that while being on an international course she had intercourse with some guy there. This was a bit less than two months before we did anything. At that time (when she was on the course) we only started chatting, we haven't even gone out yet. However, I feel really pissed, obsessed and jealous. Also a few days ago I found the guy on facebook (not stalking whatsoever, just connected a few clues when I saw his profile) and now the profile has a face. I liked her from when we even started chatting and figured that since she did this she wasn't into me at all. I'm not jealous normally and hate being like this, also I've never took girls that do one-night-stands seriously and all of this is really [bleep]my head.
Should I even be remotely pissed by this? I want it to work out, but this changed my view and opinion about her.
Should you be bothered by it??
That's not the right question, really, because you already ARE bothered by it. The question to ask is "Why?"
Did it shatter some preconceived notion you had about her? About YOU?
It's insecurity. The problem is yours and yours alone. Better get a grip.
(And cyberstalking never helps.)
Last edited by PJSaturn; 12-02-2015 at 08:15 PM..
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