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Not yet. In fact I'm leaning towards becoming a one woman man for a bit. Just have to decide between the four women. I'll make a topic about them shortly and you fine folks can help me decide which one I should focus on. I took the woman in question out last night for a bday dinner and it dawned on me that accommodating 4 women is really exhausting with my busy schedule.
Not yet. In fact I'm leaning towards becoming a one woman man for a bit. Just have to decide between the four women. I'll make a topic about them shortly and you fine folks can help me decide which one I should focus on. I took the woman in question out last night for a bday dinner and it dawned on me that accommodating 4 women is really exhausting with my busy schedule.
Do you REALLY want advice, or do you just want to continue trying to impress us with your swagger stories?
We can't help you "decide." You have to do that yourself.
For a guy that's juggling 'several' women this shouldn't even be a problem. I think, this woman has got the OP 'sprung' on her punani, not the other way around.
What is it with women and "using for sex" nonsense?
I guess women don't really enjoy sex as much as men do?
Good question, boi. I'll spell it out. Initially, his relationship with the woman in question was pretty much FWB, as far as we know. In which case, the "using" was mutual, and both participants were on an equal footing (assuming the OP was honest with her). But when he blurted out the "L" word, according to the OP, that changed the picture for his "friend". Suddenly, she started feeling boyfriend-y towards him, and started having expectations. Suddenly, we're lead to believe, she thought a Relationship was brewing, you know, the kind that involve bonding, and all that love-dovey stuff. Which, the OP tells us, he's not capable of doing, so he wants to dial it back to good old FWB without losing her.
But seeing as how they're no longer on the same page, and he wants FWB (but hasn't told her the "L" word was a mistake), while she wants something more like a committed relationship now, if he continues to "see" (haha!) her while pretending the "L" word stands and fairly represents his feelings, he'll be using her for sex, taking advantage of the feelings she now has for him and her assumption that he feels the same and that they're exclusive, or soon to be so.
See? It's only "using" her if he leads her to believe the relationship is something more than it is, just so he can get her goodies. That's what they used to call being a "cad".
What is it with women and "using for sex" nonsense?
I guess women don't really enjoy sex as much as men do?
Women love sex too but we tend to develop feelings quicker. It may start out as just physical for both parties until the woman starts to develop feelings while the man may not yet or may not know it yet. If they continue to have sex when the woman has feelings and the man doesn't, this will lead to the woman feeling used.
Hell yes I need advice. I literally like all four of these women equally. Whatever one lacks the other has it. It's crazy how well they compliment each other without even knowing each other. If you told me on the spot to pick one I couldn't. I'd like to continue dating all four but I just don't have the time and having to move things around to accomodate them is stressful as hell. You really have no idea. They are all fantastic women. I'm entering flipping a coin/picking names out of a hate territory.
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