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so i guess do you think that if she sees a change sooner or later she will be back, but i mean how can she see this change when she isnt talking back to me?
I don't know whether she'll be back. But, what I do know, is that she WON'T be back if she doesn't see a change. How does she see this change? It's by you, randomly, contacting her and saying, "hey, I went to an AA meeting and someone spoke about ______, and it made me realize what you must have gone through when I did the same thing". And, OF COURSE, actually meaning what you say.
im going to a counselor for this problem. she just stopped talking to me after that one day after she just came and seen me. then after that she just stopped talking to me. why is she not talking back?
Well IMO, if it were me I would have been long gone after the verbal abuse and the cheating. It is one thing to be a complete ass to a person but when you target your own child? This was most likely the icing on the cake.
She is probably confused and needs time to sort things out after all you 2 are expecting a child and to be very frank she is probably having second thoughts on further continuing the relationship.
After all who would want to bring an innocent life into a toxic and hostile environment?
If I were you, I would consider yourself lucky if she speaks to you again but I would focus on getting sober and enroll in Anger Management classes since from what you have posted here it is obvious that you have issues controlling yourself.
I don't think anything anyone's said here is getting through to you.
You're looking for the easy panacea to your problems. Instead of tackling the real world, you keep asking for validation on a message board. Log off, attend AA, enroll in anger management, and get your head together. You can keep talking about her MySpace (MySpace is meaningless! Why do people put so much stock in that?), and what she did and so forth, but you cannot change her. All you can do is fix yourself.
and also would there be anything at all to show her how sorry i am besides going to conseling to try and fix the problem??
No, there are no shortcuts.
The best way to say "I love you and want to see us work" is to get yourself into counseling and recovery.
And she could be well long-gone, which is quite possible since she's been burned,
but you still need to do it or you're going to be doing the same thing for the next 40 or 50 years if you are lucky enough to live that long.
Yes, and OP, while you're at it, why don't you go to AAA?
Heh heh...... I guess he could go to AAA but I don't know if they will be able to help him. He could try AA. I've heard they might do a better job at this sort of thing..........
Anywho!!! Ok Mr!!! You gotta get your sh*t together! You sound PATHETIC!!!! Get it together man!!! You drinking is a big problem. You are what they call a bad drunk. And bad drunks should NOT drink. It is not okay to get wasted and call her names or be mean or whatever you do. Not okay, buddy. Go to AA. I'm serious. I know it's a really hard step but it'll be worth it when you begin to see the other side of life. You have GOT to grow up, Tony! You have a BABY on the way!!! You need to begin to become the support structure that the soon-to-be newborn and the mother of your child need! This is not a joke!
I think once you change you ways and show her that you have made an effort to be a better person, not only for her but ESPECIALLY for that beatiful human (your child) growing inside her belly..... she will most likely take you back and hopefully you guys can then start your "happily ever after." YOu most likely have a chance again with her. No woman wants to raise a child alone, dear. Show her what you REALLY have to offer, Tony. It's time to raise that child!
Why isn't she taking you back and why hasn't she responded?
The other posters here are too nice to say it so I'll lay it out for you based on what I've read from your posts-
Because the way you acted made you a mean, immature, unreliable, selfish, unworthy jerk and no woman wants that. Mmkay? Mmkay. Now go get your life together and stop whining about how its her that's not taking you back. Its you. Its your problem.
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