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I prefer close enough in age that we have the same pop culture references.
So overrated. Plus, at any age, if you are needing to build relationships (romantic or non-romantic) with those younger, you should be up to date on the pop culture scene.
If he has a fat wallet a large age difference works.
I was once on an international flight and I couldn't help but overhear the discussion in the adjacent row.
He was late 60s, lean, tall, aristocratic, white hair, dressed well. She was mid-30s, an absolute blonde babe, admiring the 2 carat diamond on her finger. They discussed their agenda: New Zealand, Australia, Singapore, South Africa. It occurred to me that they had both gotten exactly what they wanted.
If he has a fat wallet a large age difference works.
I was once on an international flight and I couldn't help but overhear the discussion in the adjacent row.
He was late 60s, lean, tall, aristocratic, white hair, dressed well. She was mid-30s, an absolute blonde babe, admiring the 2 carat diamond on her finger. They discussed their agenda: New Zealand, Australia, Singapore, South Africa. It occurred to me that they had both gotten exactly what they wanted.
I think if everyone's on board and knows the deal, then any kind of arrangement can work. I'm just trying to picture myself at 60 something with a 35 yr old woman... IDK... that works better than a 25 yr old, at least for me, but I just couldn't help but to think that people are thinking that I bought her.
I suppose it's my ego talking, cause as you've noted in a casual observation that he's basically buying her and while they may care for each other and have a good time, you'd have to wonder if he was a retired bus driver would she still be there. I'm sort of funny in that I want a woman to actually want to be there, you follow me???
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No, a man SHOULD not date a younger woman. He also shouldn't date an older woman. He should date the woman he falls in love with, doesn'tt matter if that's a younger or an older one.
I'm 27, female and I can tell you I would NOT date a man who's almost 50. I don't have a daddy complex. I'd say he shouldn't be older than mid thirties. My SO is 31, and all of the men I've ever dated were around my age (plus minus a few years). There are women out there though who like older men, most of them mainly because of the money-security-thing. There are also men who like older women. Each to his own.
Would you date a 40 year old? 27=7+ (.5 x 40)
I'm not much older than you, and according to this formula I shouldn't date anyone older than mid forties. I prefer closer to my age +/- a few years, but this age difference wouldn't bother me.
Most women who I've had relationships with were about my age -- from a year older to 2-3 years younger, but I've had a couple serious, longterm relationships in which they were 10 years younger (including my current wife).
The biggest age discrepancy was about 20 years, when I was 47 and she was 27, but it didn't really become a "relationship", mostly just a great friendship. I found myself falling hard for her, but I was still married (but planing divorce). Near the end she made some advances towards me, but I said I was too old for her, plus I wouldn't do anything until I was divorced. Then she discovered she was preggers by her ex-boyfriend and didn't have the heart to leave him since he'd always wanted a child. (He was my age.) They got married but eventually divorced and she married someone even older. Now his age is apparently bothering her.
I really don't like the idea of age differences of more than a decade or so. The older guy may be just fine when he's 50 or 60, but there comes a time when he just can't keep up. I'm 70. When I married my wife 15 years ago I was still very active; hiking 20 miles of mountain trails and climbing up and down steep canyon walls with a 50-pound backpack was a normal, weekend activity. I can't do that anymore. The joints and muscles just aren't what they used to be, and it wouldn't be fair to be married to an active 50-year-old.
I am 48 and can not imagine being attracted to a 60-something year old man unless he was one heck of an in shape handsome minimally wrinkled 60.
Not trying to be shallow, just answering honestly.
And it's not just the looks, actually - he is right at retirement. I am really just not. Two totally different stages, mindsets.
But also...a generation apart...it would be like dating my dad....that just feels like a turnoff....NOBODY is supposed to be attracted to his or her parent. And by the same token it would be a guy who wants to have sex with someone who could have been his daughter. Gives me a gross sort of feeling. That's honesty, what can I say, it is how I feel and I don't know that I could get past it. As I said above, maybe if he looked remarkably young so I could sort of fool myself into not feeling like it was my best friend's daddy trying to shag me but...ugh. Yeah, I just don't know.
I typically like younger guys but only up to maybe 8-ish years younger, or a little less than that. Maaaaaybe 10 years younger, I think that would be my limit, probably. So going the opposite way, I could not get down with someone young enough to be my son...but for just that same reason. I can not imagine having wanted sex with one of my son's friends whether they're "men now" or not, just disgusting. Well, to me. I'm sure not to everybody. Again, not judging, just saying this is how it feels for me.
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