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Naive at 22... Probably. Stupid? Kind of harsh. I don't think I have ever met another female who hasn't been played at on time or another by some smooth talker.... Especially when they were young.
Not the guys fault.. She should have realized that getting drunk made her fair game to be sexually abused by a group of guys.
That's such an absurd statement. Since when does being drunk give guys the green light to rape you? Granted if you put yourself in a situation where you are by yourself and act/dressed in a provocative way, then you're putting yourself at risk for it. But if I go out with a few friends to just have a girls night and get sht-faced, I'm not expecting to be raped by a group of guys on the way home.
That's such an absurd statement. Since when does being drunk give guys the green light to rape you? Granted if you put yourself in a situation where you are by yourself and act/dressed in a provocative way, then you're putting yourself at risk for it. But if I go out with a few friends to just have a girls night and get sht-faced, I'm not expecting to be raped by a group of guys on the way home.
Apparently you missed the aka.... "sarcasm" in my post.
You would think she would have learned her lesson after the first guy
Some never do, they just move from one loser to the next loser, but that's a whole other subject than what the OP is asking.
The question for the OP really comes down to himself? The GF seems to be fine with her past, he seems a little troubled by it. The real issue he must ask himself is this something he can live with or does he need to move on? Like another poster said you can't go back and change the past, this is true, but you can change the future. He has a choice, he can stay and say no more or he can move on, if he believes he'd be better off to do so?
Thank you all for sharing your thoughts on this matter, I really appreciate it!
Some clarification: what happened wasn't rape, as there was some consent from my girl, it's just that this consent was very distorted by alcohol.
I get it that my girl has moved on, but I guess the thing that keeps bugging me is that I think that a-hole who used her doesn't deserve her company, he doesn't even deserve to be near her; and the fact that my girl thinks the opposite is what upset me. But it is up to her to decide who she talks to and who she doesn't, and if talking to that guy helps her cope with her past like mentioned on the first page of this thread, then I should be happy that she does that.
Re-reading what I just said made me realize what my real problem is: I'm jealous. I'm just so damn jealous that this stupid jock of an a-hole got to undeservingly be so intimately close to my wonderful and sweet girl, with so little effort on his part...But this is my own problem, it has nothing to do with my girl. I just have to get over it, for the sake of our relationship.
And to those who suggested to leave her: I just can't. I love her so very much...And the thought that she'd be alone again, open to even more abuse, absolutely shatters my heart.
Thank you all for sharing your thoughts on this matter, I really appreciate it!
Some clarification: what happened wasn't rape, as there was some consent from my girl, it's just that this consent was very distorted by alcohol.
I get it that my girl has moved on, but I guess the thing that keeps bugging me is that I think that a-hole who used her doesn't deserve her company, he doesn't even deserve to be near her; and the fact that my girl thinks the opposite is what upset me. But it is up to her to decide who she talks to and who she doesn't, and if talking to that guy helps her cope with her past like mentioned on the first page of this thread, then I should be happy that she does that.
Re-reading what I just said made me realize what my real problem is: I'm jealous. I'm just so damn jealous that this stupid jock of an a-hole got to undeservingly be so intimately close to my wonderful and sweet girl, with so little effort on his part...But this is my own problem, it has nothing to do with my girl. I just have to get over it, for the sake of our relationship.
And to those who suggested to leave her: I just can't. I love her so very much...And the thought that she'd be alone again, open to even more abuse, absolutely shatters my heart.
Thanks again everyone!
I concluded that from the beginning. We all have to overcome insecurities throughout of lives. Again, you're with her now, so enjoy the time with her and treat her good; unlike the other chumps
Sounds like she wasn't "taken advantage" of, that's just how she told you. Was probably just a garden-variety drunken hookup.
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