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It sounds very "fine and good" overall, a pleasant date.
The only positive I can say about not kissing her is MAYBE it will make her wonder why you didn't try, and more likely to make her open to a kiss next time. Maybe.
That is pretty much the message that I was trying to send. I feel like she is kind of shy when it comes to making moves/showing affection. All of her moves are often very quick touches and rubs while saying something to me, usually jokingly. I'm just hesitant now going for anything more since our previous kiss was kind of quick.
So this time you did not even get a kiss? And why are you driving in separate cars? - How is she going to invite you in for a makeout sesson if you don't pick her up?
Like I said before, she's a cereal dater. I hope you aren't buying this woman gifts and dinners - you are running a charity.
Just because a woman will let you buy her dinner does not mean she's into you. Some cereal daters will date you because they don't have a love interest on their radar, to kill time.
So this time you did not even get a kiss? And why are you driving in separate cars? - How is she going to invite you in for a makeout sesson if you don't pick her up?
Like I said before, she's a cereal dater. I hope you aren't buying this woman gifts and dinners - you are running a charity.
Just because a woman will let you buy her dinner does not mean she's into you. Some cereal daters will date you because they don't have a love interest on their radar, to kill time.
That's quite a dim view of it mate
I agree still no kiss is a bit strong but maybe he doesn't move as fast as he could or she ain't letting him ( it certainly sounds that way from both parties )
Like I said in my earlier post he seems a nice bloke and as he clearly likes the girl then keep on going and I'm certain he will get there.
I agree still no kiss is a bit strong but maybe he doesn't move as fast as he could or she ain't letting him ( it certainly sounds that way from both parties )
Like I said in my earlier post he seems a nice bloke and as he clearly likes the girl then keep on going and I'm certain he will get there.
Agree completely.
She sounds pretty reserved. OP has a plan and should follow it.
She sounds pretty reserved. OP has a plan and should follow it.
Yep
I move fast myself ( for better or worse LOL) and it's not for everyone. She does sound reserved but I for one am glad he's sticking it out and not writing her off like it would appear a lot of other men would do
I don't think she is using me. She is a pretty genuine person. She is a good girl type. I think she is unsure of committing too soon because of a previous relationship. I don't pick her up because we live about 25 miles apart. Maybe next time I'll offer to pick her up. I'm trying to be patient, but I don't want to feel like things aren't advancing.
OP, only time will tell if she is right for you. As far as OCD goes my ex had it and I was totally unaware of it until my brother pointed it out years after we were married. As for as your situation, I would keep moving along as things seem to be really good BUT that was the way it was with my ex until we got married and she returned to her "normal/abnormal" self. Since you only have been on a few dates this may be much ado about nothing. If it was me I would keep dating her and see how things progress. Eventually it will move beyond the getting to know someone phase where you keep your guard up to a more truthful phase. People with OCD can force themselves to be different if they have to but eventually they can revert to their normal selves. Kissing is more of a spontaneous activity and her response was not thought out, it was instinct. Why she acted this way is unknown at the moment and it may be OCD or germophobe or nothing. Don't over-analyze the situation just enjoy it for what it is, have a great time and hopefully she is the perfect girl for you. If her family is wealthy that can be an issue in itself. Keep us posted and hopefully you will have non stop great news for us.
I don't think she is using me. She is a pretty genuine person. She is a good girl type. I think she is unsure of committing too soon because of a previous relationship. I don't pick her up because we live about 25 miles apart. Maybe next time I'll offer to pick her up. I'm trying to be patient, but I don't want to feel like things aren't advancing.
My advice on that mate........
If I were you ask to spend the day with her maybe at the weekend, and pick her up and go for a hike or take her to the amusement park ( or anything else that you can think off that she wouldn't get bored with ) that way you can pick her up and drop her off
Personally i think spending the day with her as opposed to the couple of hours on a date you will know where it's going by then and you should feel quite comfortable to have a chat.
But honestly she's seems quite sweet so I hope things work out mate
If I were you ask to spend the day with her maybe at the weekend, and pick her up and go for a hike or take her to the amusement park ( or anything else that you can think off that she wouldn't get bored with ) that way you can pick her up and drop her off
Personally i think spending the day with her as opposed to the couple of hours on a date you will know where it's going by then and you should feel quite comfortable to have a chat.
But honestly she's seems quite sweet so I hope things work out mate
Thanks for the input. I would definitely try something like that, but we live in Michigan, so it's like 20 degrees outside. Things seem to be pretty comfortable, at least I think so. As for the germophobe thing, she asked me to try her beer, so I don't think that is a big deal to her anymore, I just think she likes things clean.
Thanks for the input. I would definitely try something like that, but we live in Michigan, so it's like 20 degrees outside. Things seem to be pretty comfortable, at least I think so. As for the germophobe thing, she asked me to try her beer, so I don't think that is a big deal to her anymore, I just think she likes things clean.
Your most welcome mate.
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