Dating a guy in the military (how to, woman, therapy, husband)
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But do you want marriage and babies with him, or marriage and babies in general?
That's the hard part. I mean I think he would be a great dad, he's an adorable uncle. Idk because I feel like I can like/love anyone who wants that with me.
That's the hard part. I mean I think he would be a great dad, he's an adorable uncle. Idk because I feel like I can like/love anyone who wants that with me.
He said he claimes he is "fcked up" ... and you think that makes a good dad?
If YOU think you can love anyone ... why not look for somebody NICE and SINCERE who doesn't play around? There are plenty of 25-30 year old guys who aren't players and who would LOVE to be with you and treat you like a princess, I bet.
I don't know what MOS means. He was infantry so yeah he's seen combat. He does have physical issues and has had a few surgeries and will need more in the future. I have CP though so I have walking issues too. We have never gone in depth about the mental but he has said "I'm just f'ed up" so I do foresee PTSD issues he's eluded to a lot of sleep issues related to it.
MOS- basic terms means his military occupation speciality aka job.
There is a very good chance he will be unable to assimilate to civilian life as soon as he gets out and he will most likely suffer from separation/disruption disorder, if not PTSD (post traumatic stress). Unlike an admin job in the military, infantry is go go go. He may very well end up as a police officer or in some type of first response job, which may further add to his type-A personality (something that is not very well known talked about).
Now it is not to say that the above will all fall into place and he is going to be some nut job. However, there is a good chance that he is going to need to re-establish himself. The military does not do a good job in transitioning service members because their job is (recruit/retention, not separation)
The above are things to consider at your stage nearly approaching 30 years of age. You won't get this info anywhere else so take a picture, write it down, print it, and do whatever you have to in order to keep this info in mind.
There is a very good chance he will be unable to assimilate to civilian life as soon as he gets out and he will most likely suffer from separation/disruption disorder. Unlike an admin job in the military, infantry is go go go. He may very end up as a police officer or in some type of first response job, which may further add to his type-A personality (something that is not very well known talked about).
Now it is not to say that the above will all fall into place and he is going to be some nut job. However, there is a good chance that he is going to need to re-establish himself. The military does not do a good job in transitioning service members because their job is (recruit/retention, not separation)
The above are things to consider at your stage nearly approaching 30 years of age. You won't get this info anywhere else so take a picture, write it down, print it, and do whatever you have to in order to keep this info in mind.
She said he has some physical issues - I don't think he can be a police officer if he isn't in perfect shape ..
He might be out of a job for a long time. He might have to work low end jobs. He might have/get PTSD. There are lots of areas where they don't hire ex military people because they are known not to be able to work independently.
That's the hard part. I mean I think he would be a great dad, he's an adorable uncle. Idk because I feel like I can like/love anyone who wants that with me.
It sounds like you'd marry the first reasonably nice guy who asks you; that's a problem. And also a very common start of miserable marriages. Plus, being the Fun Uncle is very different from being a father; parenthood is half the fun and 10x the responsibility.
She said he has some physical issues - I don't think he can be a police officer if he isn't in perfect shape ..
He might be out of a job for a long time. He might have to work low end jobs. He might have/get PTSD. There are lots of areas where they don't hire ex military people because they are known not to be able to work independently.
Veddy Veddy true.... Although it may depend on the disability %, if it is documented, and if he reveals it. Sometimes they don't reveal it til after in order to get the job. I hope she is listening to you!
I definitely didn't think of a lot of that stuff. It's just that shows interest in my and he's attractive. It's so hard to find someone. Believe if it was easy I would have been married at like 20 which was my dream.
That's true but OP already stated that the guy thinks he is "fcked up"
Yeah he said that. I mean I can tell he is aggressive because he was so easily irritated when the guy took a long time to take our order and bring my coke but I didn't think much of it. I thought it was kind of sweet that he's protective. Of course one day it could be a problem but it could potentially not be either.
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