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This is probably going to be one of the strangest things you guys have read, but here goes; I'm a 25 year old biological female identities as male, is only attracted to men, but CANNOT have penetrative sex of any flavor.
I have a rare disorder called Ehler's Danlos Syndrome Type 3. It disrupts challenge production and causes me to be entirely too flexible. Just running can cause an injury to an ankle/knee/hip. I also cannot take any form of hormonal BC due to the fact that there is a high risk it could kill me. Pregnancy could also kill me. Both of the above have been determined by medical professionals, not just me saying it.
I also have never had any desire to have penetrative sex. Nope, nada, zilch. I am also attracted to more "feminine" men then the average cisgender woman would be. But, I also present as male (haircut, clothing,etc). I am a transgender person who could never have FtM surgery due to the extremely high chance I wouldn't survive the surgery and/or the necessary hormones would cause me to have a heart attack (I already have POTS Syndrome, PSVT and my heart was weakened by Myocarditis).
Through in brain damage from birth (can't drive or do math higher than a second grade level) and there is a big problem here. I want a guy that likes to cuddle, kiss and touch with no sex, but those men are like solid gold unicorns being ridden by leprechauns.
I've been involved (as much as my condition allows) in Meetup groups, volunteering and am going to a community college in June.
terrible syndrome. Sorry to hear you struggle with that. As for a woman identifying as a man, some things I will never understand. It's just strange behavior to me. And you're into men also.
You do have a number of things that aren't in your favor. Some you can change and others you can't.
Try searching on the web for other individuals who are similar to you. Like the transgendered community. There might be someone who identifies as a male who is attracted to males who is still female..
I am somewhat ignorant on topics regarding sexuality and orientation when it comes to the transgendered community, but I know that there are groups out there for the transgendered community..
This is probably going to be one of the strangest things you guys have read, but here goes; I'm a 25 year old biological female identities as male, is only attracted to men, but CANNOT have penetrative sex of any flavor.
I have a rare disorder called Ehler's Danlos Syndrome Type 3. It disrupts challenge production and causes me to be entirely too flexible. Just running can cause an injury to an ankle/knee/hip. I also cannot take any form of hormonal BC due to the fact that there is a high risk it could kill me. Pregnancy could also kill me. Both of the above have been determined by medical professionals, not just me saying it.
I also have never had any desire to have penetrative sex. Nope, nada, zilch. I am also attracted to more "feminine" men then the average cisgender woman would be. But, I also present as male (haircut, clothing,etc). I am a transgender person who could never have FtM surgery due to the extremely high chance I wouldn't survive the surgery and/or the necessary hormones would cause me to have a heart attack (I already have POTS Syndrome, PSVT and my heart was weakened by Myocarditis).
Through in brain damage from birth (can't drive or do math higher than a second grade level) and there is a big problem here. I want a guy that likes to cuddle, kiss and touch with no sex, but those men are like solid gold unicorns being ridden by leprechauns.
I've been involved (as much as my condition allows) in Meetup groups, volunteering and am going to a community college in June.
Is there any hope here?
I think that you need serious therapy. Start there.
In general, the more unique you see yourself, the pickier you are, the less flexible you are in terms of what you'll accept, the more difficult it will be for you. You've laid out a lot of very specific things that you present as "not negotiable" - so yeah, you won't likely find anyone. Move to NYC...then...maybe.
You say you "cannot" have penetrative sex. Is that because you don't want to get pregnant? THAT will obviously limit your male partners. Even if you'd be okay with penetrative sex once a month you'd have better odds. You may want to reconsider this requirement.
Of course when we're young, we all like to think of ourselves as unicorns...which certainly means we'll never find another unicorn for ourselves, right? ...such angst. You may find that as you mature you'll be more accepting of others as well as yourself (meaning, you won't put yourself into such a tiny box).
Try searching on the web for other individuals who are similar to you. Like the transgendered community. There might be someone who identifies as a male who is attracted to males who is still female..
I am somewhat ignorant on topics regarding sexuality and orientation when it comes to the transgendered community, but I know that there are groups out there for the transgendered community..
I am/was part of two Transgender groups, one IRL and one online. The IRL one was primarily MTFs and they mostly talked about cosmetics, clothing and what doctor does the best boob job. Plus, most of them were over 50 or in a LTR. They couldn't understand way someone would want to be male. The online one is more helpful, but nobody on it lives in my area.
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I think that you need serious therapy. Start there.
Been doing that for YEARS.
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I think your best bet is to get a pet and try to make more friends. I do not believe you really need a romantic partner.
Why do you think that?
On the penetrative issue: there is a high risk of injury (hip dislocation, internal injuries) and it has never interested me.
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