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I know girls have this reflex to be nice but it seems like I've been led on like all the time. This girl I work with is kind of cute. Like nice body ugly face cute ( the worst kind). And we've hung out a few times. I went back to her place and gave a few STRONG HINTS that I was into her and nothing. Then a few weeks ago I text her saying "If I told you ,you were cute would you hold it against me?" And she sent one of those " awe thanks" ( in a very Unenthusiastic way). And after that I haven't heard anything from her? And I work with her so I have to see her. She switched from saying hi to me to not even turning my direction. Like why go through all that trouble? If Women can be more upfront like " Just to let you know im not looking for a relationship just a friend" then that would work but when I send strong body language and she has no idea its like do I need to put it in writing???
I could be wrong but aren't we adults? if I don't like a girl I will tell her in a very kind manner she's not my type. But for some reason women tend to just not say anything while you fantasize about a relationship that will never happen.
You sure don't sound like an adult.
You say "girls" aren't honest, and yet you weren't honest in your question. Instead of just coming right out and telling her you liked her, you had to do it in a text, not-really-asking way so if she shot you down you could save face. Sounds like you are the one who can't be straight up and honest.
And the usual, don't make blanket generalizations about one gender, and women aren't girls so don't call them such.
It is when you clearly don't mean it at all and are only saying it hoping to get in her pants. The fact that you are now vilifying her while admitting that you also weren't honest with her about your intentions says a lot about what kind of person you are. Hint: It's not a good thing.
I know girls have this reflex to be nice but it seems like I've been led on like all the time. This girl I work with is kind of cute. Like nice body ugly face cute ( the worst kind). And we've hung out a few times. I went back to her place and gave a few STRONG HINTS that I was into her and nothing. Then a few weeks ago I text her saying "If I told you ,you were cute would you hold it against me?" And she sent one of those " awe thanks" ( in a very Unenthusiastic way). And after that I haven't heard anything from her? And I work with her so I have to see her. She switched from saying hi to me to not even turning my direction. Like why go through all that trouble? If Women can be more upfront like " Just to let you know im not looking for a relationship just a friend" then that would work but when I send strong body language and she has no idea its like do I need to put it in writing???
I could be wrong but aren't we adults? if I don't like a girl I will tell her in a very kind manner she's not my type. But for some reason women tend to just not say anything while you fantasize about a relationship that will never happen.
It's not exclusive to women. People are uncomfortable with confrontation. They don't want to make waves, so they do a fade-out. Men do this as well; they're afraid the woman they're blowing off will cry or get mad, so they simply avoid.
It kinda sounds to me like you don't have a real interest in her, either, other than a standard male variety (i.e. you want to have sex with her). So, perhaps YOU could be more upfront with HER, instead of trying to give her the impression that you like her for more than that. Maybe she already realizes your interest in her is superficial, and THAT'S why she's "unenthusiastic." Women can usually detect when a man's interest is purely sexual.
This is my guess. Butterface knows perfectly well she's not "cute" so now she knows what you want from her.
I'm not certain that she's a butterface, but even if she is, it doesn't sound like the OP had any better options.
OP describes her as such, so that's really all we have to work with.
Regarding the OP: I hope you don't mean to imply that the woman was DIShonest, because she wasn't. She just wasn't as forthcoming about her feelings as you'd like, and that's hardly a crime. And while people will tell you that I definitely hold women responsible for a LOT more shady things than I do for men, I think that the particular offense in question ("dishonesty" by omission) is definitely more in men's wheelhouse. At the very least (as mentioned), it's certainly not limited to women's behavior. It just so happens that it's the women (or woman) that's frustrating you at the moment.
I'm not certain that she's a butterface, but even if she is, it doesn't sound like the OP had any better options.
nice body ugly face cute (the worst kind) = butterface
Not sure what "the worst kind" refers to, but it doesn't sound flattering.
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