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Women can and often do add crazy to a life that is "normal" to a guy. If you like the way you're living without women, then do it. Unless you're living in biblethumper land, you probably won't have this decision shoved in your face.
This makes me giggle a bit. My son just turned 17, and he always said the same. I don't need or want the drama Mom. He would say, "I see my friends going through all the drama and BS with girls, and I am just not interested." One day, not long ago, he met his girl. HA~
No drama, no BS with her mom. She is not that way. He has been dating her for a year now, and swears he is "in love."
One day at a time.
This. OP, believe it or not, there are women out there who don't care about your lack of HS popularity (they're more mature than that), your average looks, your financially-average parents, and all that. And they're not a rare species. You just need to make some effort to find them. I don't know where guys get this idea that they need money, exceptional looks and popularity to appeal to women. There are women who love nerdy guys, geeky guys, steady, dependable guys. There are women who love funny, quirky guys, bright, creative guys, or guys who make them feel special. If your friends tend to be caught up in endless drama, that says as much about your friends as it does the women they choose. It doesn't have to happen to you.
I'm a 24 year old guy and relationships never appealed to me. I was always very focused on my personal achievements, I wasn't the popular guy in high school, my looks are average, my parents aren't rich and I never had lots of success in sports.
I have nothing against people who are in relationships, everyone knows what's best for them but to me the perfect life would be having a house of my own, full of books and a couple of German shepherds.
I go out for drinks and dinners with friends but nothing makes me stray from my personal goals. I have no baggage, no ex-girlfriend drama or traumas from toxic relationships. It's just me and myself.
I obviously never had sex or been kissed. Even though I'm curious about that, I don't like the endless troubles that might come with that.
Wise decision, OP. Relationships are not for everyone. Especially if you don't intend on ever having children. You're perceptive enough to know that sex and love are essentially different, and that toxic relationships with today's needy women are a rocky road to nowhere.
Most people dating around those ages are very immature and don't know what they want.
That doesn't mean it will end in major drama - nor does it mean that it's bad. That relationship taught me so much about my future relationships and taught me so much about myself. Plus, we had some amazing times together. He's a wonderful person and I'm so glad that we were together.
That doesn't mean it will end in major drama - nor does it mean that it's bad. That relationship taught me so much about my future relationships and taught me so much about myself. Plus, we had some amazing times together. He's a wonderful person and I'm so glad that we were together.
Thats cool and I am happy it worked out for you. I am sure you are the exception though not the rule. Young men in this day and age should avoid relationships until they are well established in my opinion. By the way I am saying this as a young man who has been burned many times and seen male friends burned by relationships at this young age.
That can happen but most teen relationships are doomed to end with spectacular drama.
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Originally Posted by BornintheSprings
Thats cool and I am happy it worked out for you. I am sure you are the exception though not the rule. Young men in this day and age should avoid relationships until they are well established in my opinion. By the way I am saying this as a young man who has been burned many times and seen male friends burned by relationships at this young age.
Not partaking in something that is honestly just not for you is fine. Not partaking in something because you are afraid is no way to live your life. We learn by experience - our own experience.
Wise decision, OP. Relationships are not for everyone. Especially if you don't intend on ever having children. You're perceptive enough to know that sex and love are essentially different, and that toxic relationships with today's needy women are a rocky road to nowhere.
I think its being comfortable in your lifestyle and not wanting to risk it. Lets be honest what chance does a thirty five year old man who has never been in a relationship to get right? Like they say,"the grass isn't always greener".
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