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I would drop her, but I question your ability to choose dates.
Why was a 3rd date a dinner date? You should still be doing some sort of activity dates, or a home dinner date, not a restaurant dinner date. Also, a chain restaurant is not a good choice if you are choosing to go the dinner date route.
I wouldn't take it further. In fact, I'd probably too pissed off to finish the date.
Way too many people I know work those types of jobs and I couldn't stand for anyone treating them like that.... not to mention what it says about the type of person they are.
I would drop her, but I question your ability to choose dates.
Why was a 3rd date a dinner date? You should still be doing some sort of activity dates, or a home dinner date, not a restaurant dinner date. Also, a chain restaurant is not a good choice if you are choosing to go the dinner date route.
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Originally Posted by cheryjohns
Huh? Not sure what that had to do with the price of eggs in China.
Let's hope they only spit in the date's food and not the OP's.
Good idea. I would have apologized, in front of the date, for the date's bad behavior - that very night.
Waiter knew the guy was going into a bad relationship.
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Originally Posted by PhureeKeeper
I didn't know about the third date rule.
I made the point of his selection of date venues being problematic because I do not think dinner dates are beneficial early on in the relationship. I had assumed that OP had yet to have sex with this particular woman. In fact, I do not advocate for dinner dates in restaurants prior to sex. They are usually boring, you are sitting on the opposite sex of a table from her (which impedes touch), food impedes absorption of alcohol, and it may cause bloating and satiation, which is not sexy. In short, it does not enable the process of having sex.
The home dinner date is acceptable though. I usually think that activity based dates, drinks dates, and home dinner dates are the way to go before sex.
Also, there are better venues for restaurant dates than Chili's. An independent, non-chain restaurant with some sort of eclectic cuisine would have been more meaningful if one must go the dinner date route.
OP would have seen her rude side in another format other than a dinner date at Chili's.
Other posters have been more reactive to a particular incident, whereas my commentary was more focused on the overall process of dating. The process matters.
I would think that home dinner date would be intimidating for some women who don't really know you yet. If it is at her place, then it would seem like a invitation to sex since she is denied the choice of whether or not to invite you in at the end of the date.
I would think that home dinner date would be intimidating for some women who don't really know you yet. If it is at her place, then it would seem like a invitation to sex since she is denied the choice of whether or not to invite you in at the end of the date.
You need a minimum of two face-to-face interactions before asking for a home dinner date, but it is typically more the like 3rd or 4th date. Prior to the suggestion of a home dinner date, a previous date should have had some degree of intense kissing and maybe even some groping. The intimidation barriers should be reduced at this point.
The first home dinner date is more likely to occur at the man's place than the woman's place, because the man is more likely to initiate it. It's much more challenging for a man to suggest a home dinner date at a woman's place, but it could happen.
So a girl I have been seeing we have gone on 3 dates now, I am 29 she is 28. Met her through a mutual friend and we get along well but on our last date she did something that made me question her character.
We went to Chili's and it was very busy, after about 10 minutes our server came and she (girl I am dating) said "About time you got here!" in a kind of mean tone. The server she apologized but my date wasn't satisfied and said she better do a better job or she'll talk to her manager. Again the server apologized and took our order and brought us appetizers which we went through we wanted some more and we had gotten finished with our appetizers for about 5 minutes when my date said "The servers here are useless, they should pay more attention" and got up and went looking for our server and I guess wasn't nice to her when she got back she looked like she got chewed out but was still nice.
We did get our food and that was fine and when the server asked us if we wanted any desert my date quips "If we wanted desert don't you think we'd have asked?". When we were about to leave I put down a $10 because I thought she did good but my date saw it and she said she doesn't deserve a tip for bad service.
The whole thing seemed bizarre but what do you think?
Why do you ask? Do you want to be the waitress down the road?
The home dinner date is acceptable though. I usually think that activity based dates, drinks dates, and home dinner dates are the way to go before sex.
So you do a home dinner date with this entitled princess from hell, sleep with her, and she shows up the next day with a U Haul. Great strategy!
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