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My husband doesnt want to live with my family anymore. Weve been living in my house for over a year now. We live with my mom, my sis and her son. My husband is a clean freak. He wants everything neat and clean or he gets really frustrated. My nephew who is 9 years old keeps the house messy. He eats evywhere, lives food evwrywhere and doesnt clean after himself. My husband wants us to move with his parents until we save enough to buy our own house.
We want to get our own place but at this time were still saving. Its my house but I cant kick out my family. Im really confused because I feel like Im torn in the middle. Also, were expecting our first baby in a few months. Please advice! Thanks.
We want to get our own place but at this time were still saving. Its my house but I cant kick out my family. Im really confused because I feel like Im torn in the middle. Also, were expecting our first baby in a few months. Please advice! Thanks.
Sell that house and use the proceeds to get that house you are saving for sooner.
I assume money prevents you getting your own place, as the choices appear to be yours or his family. In either case that's tough, and it really depends who can handle the in-laws better.
Also a tough one, but if it is your house (and by default your husbands?), who comes first? Something has to give. Without knowing any history, or truly the current overall situation, IMO once you were married your husband should be #1. Now if he first agreed to these living arrangements and is changing his tune, then he has some explaining to do. Other than that, hard to expect him to keep putting up living not with his family.
My husband doesnt want to live with my family anymore. Weve been living in my house for over a year now. We live with my mom, my sis and her son. My husband is a clean freak. He wants everything neat and clean or he gets really frustrated. My nephew who is 9 years old keeps the house messy. He eats evywhere, lives food evwrywhere and doesnt clean after himself. My husband wants us to move with his parents until we save enough to buy our own house.
We want to get our own place but at this time were still saving. Its my house but I cant kick out my family. Im really confused because I feel like Im torn in the middle. Also, were expecting our first baby in a few months. Please advice! Thanks.
Kick your family out or your husbands leaving to his parents.
Sounds like you are being used if it's your place.
Sell that house and use the proceeds to get that house you are saving for sooner.
Why can't you ask your relatives to move?
I cant . I lost my dad a few years ago and I promised him I will take care of my family especially my mom. Ive been taking care of my family for many years since I started making money. Its just hard for me to just ask them to live knowing they have nowhere to go.
I assume money prevents you getting your own place, as the choices appear to be yours or his family. In either case that's tough, and it really depends who can handle the in-laws better.
Also a tough one, but if it is your house (and by default your husbands?), who comes first? Something has to give. Without knowing any history, or truly the current overall situation, IMO once you were married your husband should be #1. Now if he first agreed to these living arrangements and is changing his tune, then he has some explaining to do. Other than that, hard to expect him to keep putting up living not with his family.
We agreed that were gonna live at my house for 3 years until we save enough money to buy another house. But lately hes been telling me that he cant anymore and that its getting harder for him to live with my family.
For God's sake, and for the sake of your marriage, move into an apartment. Rent a house if you have to. But get out.
I offered that suggestion but he did not want to. He said we cant save if we have to pay expensive rent on top of us paying the house. We also give money to his parents to help them financially. And with the baby coming were getting more expenses.
If it's your house set down ground rules for your family that lives there. If you are supporting them the least they can do is keep the house clean.
Your mom and sister should have no problem keeping up after 1 child. And by 9 years old the child is old enough to clean up after himself.
My mom and I always keeps reminding him to clean after himself. Teach him what he has to do but hes too stubborn and only listen to his mom. Another reason why my husband hates living with him. He hears him answers back to me and my mom. We try to discipline him but hes just to stubborn and hes not my kid so my mom and I cant do anything much. My sister doesnt do anything. I dont know if its because shes a single parent that she feels bad hurting his son.
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