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If you and your significant other are discussing moving in together, has there typically already been the "I love you" exchange for the first time ?
Curious how many of you have moved in with your SO with the eventual goal of LTR, marraige, and kids, but didn't exchange "I Love you" (or weren't in-love) before the setting up of moving-in dates came up or maybe even before you were moved in together ?
I would assume if discussions for moving in together are taking shape for dates and locations, the I love you would have already happened. Am I wrong? Anyone with experience on this ?
If you want a roommate it is best to not be romantically involved, if you want a spouse I find it is best to be in love with them before living with them. Otherwise what is the point of looking for marriage with one you do not love?
Why do you ask, OP? It's an odd way to phrase it: "Must you be in love...", as if there's a rule that someone is enforcing.
It completely depends on the individuals. People shack up because they want to. The "I love you's" sometimes come later. Some aren't even thinking so long-term as marriage at the time. That gets sorted out as they mature, in some cases.
But again....why do you ask? Are you taking a survey, or are you in some kind of situation you need advice for?
I would assume if discussions for moving in together are taking shape for dates and locations, the I love you would have already happened. Am I wrong? Anyone with experience on this ?
The "I love you" would have to be a requirement for me to move.
Why do you ask, OP? It's an odd way to phrase it: "Must you be in love...", as if there's a rule that someone is enforcing.
It completely depends on the individuals. People shack up because they want to. The "I love you's" sometimes come later. Some aren't even thinking so long-term as marriage at the time. That gets sorted out as they mature, in some cases.
But again....why do you ask? Are you taking a survey, or are you in some kind of situation you need advice for?
It is a situation that happened in my life. Last weekend she targeted 6 weeks move in date to my place.
I suggested 10 weeks for two reasons.
1. My place isn't really physically ready to accomadate her and her stuff yet. However, we could probably squeeze it in if we had to, but it wouldnt be pretty for a short time.
2. More importantly, she hasn't said "I love you."
I was more curious about people in real life that were dating and had moved in together before saying I Love you. I am concerned about her emotional availablilty and whether or not this situation (me) is bein viewed as more of a business situation more than anything else in her eyes. I'm sure that last statement sounds way worse than I intended, but to put it bluntly on a forum, that is the most simple way to state it.
She seems like a solid woman, and she seems really into me (and I really like her). I just have some concerns. Mainly, I would prefer for her to have said the 3 words already, or at least before we decide on a move in date.
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It is a situation that happened in my life. Last weekend she targeted 6 weeks move in date to my place.
I suggested 10 weeks for two reasons.
Are you in love with her? How long have you been a couple?
And what does "targeted 6 weeks" move in date mean? I've lived with a couple of women in my life, and we didn't target a date, and one person didn't decide to move in on a date, we decided to live together together, and then went about working it out. I'm not getting the dynamic. It doesn't sound collaborative or coming from love.
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