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Old 01-16-2016, 02:44 PM
 
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Being a guy full or sexual desire and not able to enjoy it is very hard. During my college years I met few quite shy Asian women because I'm shy myself so I thought would be a good fit for me. I never had any luck. I think its because I have a brown skin tone and majority of Asians don't like such skin tone. I never tired American women because I feel they are too wild for me. I'm shy, quiet reserved guy who does not like to party and go to bars. Since that never worked for me I just gave up and hope maybe some random woman may approach me say at a coffee shop or bus stop and maybe I would have luck. That has never happen either. One thing I know is I'm becoming very sexually frustrated as I get older because I'm not able to enjoy one my natural biological functions. So recently I started thinking of using escorts and may as well at this point in life as I'm on track of dying as a virgin, then if that happens my spirit become angry soul in the after life.

I sort of feel that escorts are the last options I pretty much have that would let me have my first sexual encounter. Without escorts I for sure will die as a virgin. I guess being in San Francisco whee the number of men out number women is making it extremely difficult for me. So I'm deciding should I wait or just go with this escort since the majority of woman do not want a virgin guy at my age. I also heard the older you the harder it becomes. Sound like an escort is really becoming a better option for me at this point, at least one that offers GFE service.
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Old 01-16-2016, 02:46 PM
 
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Old 01-16-2016, 02:47 PM
 
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Being a guy full or sexual desire and not able to enjoy it is very hard. During my college years I met few quite shy Asian women because I'm shy myself so I thought would be a good fit for me. I never had any luck. I think its because I have a brown skin tone and majority of Asians don't like such skin tone. I never tired American women because I feel they are too wild for me. I'm shy, quiet reserved guy who does not like to party and go to bars. Since that never worked for me I just gave up and hope maybe some random woman may approach me say at a coffee shop or bus stop and maybe I would have luck. That has never happen either. One thing I know is I'm becoming very sexually frustrated as I get older because I'm not able to enjoy one my natural biological functions. So recently I started thinking of using escorts and may as well at this point in life as I'm on track of dying as a virgin, then if that happens my spirit become angry soul in the after life.
Are you sure about this?
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Old 01-16-2016, 02:53 PM
 
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Sound like an escort is really becoming a better option for me at this point, at least one that offers GFE service.
Don't loose hope.

Have you tried joining some sort of common interest group... hobby... interests.. etc.. Finding a group of people with a common interest to share is a good way to help with being comfortable around people which does lead to building relationships with women.

In general, women don't randomly approach guys in public... not all but most. It is just the way it is.

I'm a supporter of sex workers HOWEVER... it sounds to me like there are other things in your life that are missing that an escort will never be able to fulfill. You just may feel even more unsatisfied and regret after the fact.

There are a few threads on this exact topic. search and you will find.
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Old 01-16-2016, 02:58 PM
 
Location: Scottsdale, AZ
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I just gave up and hope maybe some random woman may approach me say at a coffee shop or bus stop and maybe I would have luck.
Unfortunately, women rarely approach men, so don't hold your breath. Dating is tough for a shy guy, but you must overcome your shyness and initiate in order to get lucky; the harder you try, the luckier you'll get.

That said, try harder! and no matter how many times you fail, don't ever give up. If all else fails....get a hooker
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Old 01-16-2016, 03:10 PM
 
Location: 🇬🇧 In jolly old London! 🇬🇧
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Being a guy full or sexual desire and not able to enjoy it is very hard. During my college years I met few quite shy Asian women because I'm shy myself so I thought would be a good fit for me. I never had any luck. I think its because I have a brown skin tone and majority of Asians don't like such skin tone. I never tired American women because I feel they are too wild for me. I'm shy, quiet reserved guy who does not like to party and go to bars. Since that never worked for me I just gave up and hope maybe some random woman may approach me say at a coffee shop or bus stop and maybe I would have luck. That has never happen either. One thing I know is I'm becoming very sexually frustrated as I get older because I'm not able to enjoy one my natural biological functions. So recently I started thinking of using escorts and may as well at this point in life as I'm on track of dying as a virgin, then if that happens my spirit become angry soul in the after life.

I sort of feel that escorts are the last options I pretty much have that would let me have my first sexual encounter. Without escorts I for sure will die as a virgin. I guess being in San Francisco whee the number of men out number women is making it extremely difficult for me. So I'm deciding should I wait or just go with this escort since the majority of woman do not want a virgin guy at my age. I also heard the older you the harder it becomes. Sound like an escort is really becoming a better option for me at this point, at least one that offers GFE service.
As HC says women rarely approach

how about OLD? ( I know it doesn't get the best reviews but worth a try )

I know bars/pubs are not your scene but I can't recommend it strongly enough, I'm sure you have friends that go out? Join them for a night out yes you will be out of your comfort zone but it WILL improve both your confidence and chances of meeting a lady so well worth a try
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Old 01-16-2016, 03:10 PM
 
Location: The 719
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Unfortunately, women rarely approach men, so don't hold your breath.
That's an opinion. Here's another one... women always approach men, if they let them. Don't try hard at all. Just be you. Go and hang out at a coffee shop three days a week and talk to no one. Do this for weeks and months until you hook up.

You may get lucky and you may not. If you don't, kick your keys to San Jose and try there.

You've been whining about not getting laid for 29 years, two and a half here on City-Data forums alone.

I'll check back in 2.5 years to see how it goes.

Good luck. Think more of her and less of you. Or don't.

Peace out.
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Old 01-16-2016, 03:21 PM
 
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Are you sure about this?
Very sure about that.
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Old 01-16-2016, 03:23 PM
 
Location: In a place beyond human comprehension
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And the problem is??????
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Old 01-16-2016, 03:24 PM
 
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Don't loose hope.

Have you tried joining some sort of common interest group... hobby... interests.. etc.. Finding a group of people with a common interest to share is a good way to help with being comfortable around people which does lead to building relationships with women.

In general, women don't randomly approach guys in public... not all but most. It is just the way it is.

I'm a supporter of sex workers HOWEVER... it sounds to me like there are other things in your life that are missing that an escort will never be able to fulfill. You just may feel even more unsatisfied and regret after the fact.

There are a few threads on this exact topic. search and you will find.
Well I have approached just the quiet, shy Asians. I don't even bother with American women because they like bad boys and I'm not a bad boy.
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