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Im honestly not even focusing on sex or thinking about it. I want to make a romantic connection and I feel ready to settle down. Booty call has nothing to do with it
honey, don't kid yourself. for most men if the sex isn't good, there's not potential LTR. And your mistaken if you think this is going to be one of those dating for several weeks to see if you guys have long-term potential, you work for the guy and will see him Monday thru Friday. Like I said, you should figure out if either you guys will be friends or you got the glue for a bigger emotional commitment.
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honey, don't kid yourself. for most men if the sex isn't good, there's not potential LTR. And your mistaken if you think this is going to be one of those dating for several weeks to see if you guys have long-term potential, you work for the guy and will see him Monday thru Friday. Like I said, you should figure out if either you guys will be friends or you got the glue for a bigger emotional commitment.
Just bc I will see him at work doesnt mean we can't date and are going to rush things. Yeah he's a guy and likes sex probably but Im looking for a connection and donr plan on getting intimate until Im in love. I think he will respect that if it gets brought up.
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Just bc I will see him at work doesnt mean we can't date and are going to rush things. Yeah he's a guy and likes sex probably but Im looking for a connection and donr plan on getting intimate until Im in love. I think he will respect that if it gets brought up.
This forum thinks about sex way to much lol.
No, it doesn't mean you can't date. It means you should not date.
Just bc I will see him at work doesnt mean we can't date and are going to rush things. Yeah he's a guy and likes sex probably but Im looking for a connection and donr plan on getting intimate until Im in love. I think he will respect that if it gets brought up.
This forum thinks about sex way to much lol.
You're a bit naive and inexperienced relationshipwise, and I am truly not trying to insult you. Just saying you are expecting this to be no big deal and everything should be cool... but experience has taught many of us who have walked in your shoes that often it turns out that you regret getting involved with someone at work.
It's royally distracting to do your job effectively to say the least, along with causing office drama (such as favoritism complaints) once others find out, which they will once you guys start acting different around each other. And I've seen situations where one of the two has to find another job, or worse, is fired (like a manager dating a subordinate). Ask anyone who works in Human Resources, there are tons of cases where office romances have gone wrong, and of course all involved ppl who had giddy feelings for one another.
But, I'm a romantic too so you never know it could work out. Many married couples in their late 40s and 50s met at work, I think I read somewhere that 50% of married couple did. But with the advent of sexual harassment and hostile work environment laws, many ppl these days would rather keep their job than risk it so they avoid any office flings. All you need is one person to complain about it and it ruins everything, along with your worker reputation, and I'm talking about the old "using bad judgment" criticism. It's stupid, but that's the way it is these days for most employers.
My suggest as to "go friendly" or "go all in" was only tactical approach to figure out if their is long term potential as soon as possible rather than allowing work issues to interfere with the development of your relationship.
If Corp finds out they where fraternizing before the transfer it won't matter as long as people's jobs are concerned. They investigate and interview once relationships become known between employees, For a manger it's taken a hell of a lot more serious than the general staff.
Personally I would be concerned that a manager would even be considering the option since he would know the rules and why he should be upholding himself to that standard already, and what that may say about him as a person...
That said, I don't think it really matters to the OP....it's already gone further than it should have.
Well tonight will decide our future. Im excited but I have calmed down. Its been all I can think about for days. I'm hoping that it goes well. If transfers it would be better bc there would not be an issue of him playing favorites not that he would any way but I get what some of you are saying. I honestly dont expect or want special treatment at work and he wouldn't give it to me any way.
Just bc I will see him at work doesnt mean we can't date and are going to rush things. Yeah he's a guy and likes sex probably but Im looking for a connection and donr plan on getting intimate until Im in love. I think he will respect that if it gets brought up.
This forum thinks about sex way to much lol.
Ha! If only you knew the level of self-control it takes for us to stay within the [draconian] PG13 confines
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