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Why is that funny? My ex used to say that all the time. That like I get to say whatever I was (not just me but other people too) because he fought for our freedom to do that. It's just what I think about thats why I said it. Sorry I'm cheesy I guess
So you're okay with all the changes that come at you, the moves, the deployments, training. Never really able to make concrete long term plans (weddings, vacations, holidays) because leave requests can get scrapped. Even couples who do their best to plan run into problems. I know more than just 1 woman who despite planning ends up giving birth alone.
It's not a lifestyle for someone who is emotionally needy.
I know and I think I can handle it. My ex described what his ex did everyday and literally it was nothing. I know I could do it. I do like plans but I am adaptable and flexible especially for my future husband
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Originally Posted by Gab12
Why is that funny? My ex used to say that all the time. That like I get to say whatever I was (not just me but other people too) because he fought for our freedom to do that. It's just what I think about thats why I said it. Sorry I'm cheesy I guess
And yet you claim that military guy who has PTSD and drives drunk is "perfect" for you?
The other post is exactly what you are trying your hardest to get yourself into. You need to stop looking for the guy that will marry you and knock you up soonest and start looking for stability in yourself.
Do you have some sort of terminal illness? Meaning, you have limited days ahead of you?
The reason I ask is, let's say you don't find a man and get married by 27, what is going to happen to you? Are you going to burst into nothingness or something?
And yet you claim that military guy who has PTSD and drives drunk is "perfect" for you?
The other post is exactly what you are trying your hardest to get yourself into. You need to stop looking for the guy that will marry you and knock you up soonest and start looking for stability in yourself.
That's true. Very very true. I wish I would just get myself together soon. I know it seems like I don't listen but I really do. I post a lot when things happen that trigger me like that pregnant girl last week, or the military guy telling me he doesn't care about anyone at all (this week) I get emotional and bring it here because I can't tell my friends and my brother tells me the same thing and it upsets me.
Do you have some sort of terminal illness? Meaning, you have limited days ahead of you?
The reason I ask is, let's say you don't find a man and get married by 27, what is going to happen to you? Are you going to burst into nothingness or something?
No. And no I won't I'll just be really lonely and sad I think and jealous and bitter. That's what I'm struggling with most. Like I look at these couples I know who are my age and younger and think omg what do they have that I don't? Sense of self esteem and self worth?? Well how come I don't have that naturally like they obviously do? My one friend was just like me obsessed with marriage and she wanted to be proposed to at graduation in Sept she met a guy who very well could propose to her by may at our graduation they love each other a ton and she's 23.
I have another friend I posted about (the housewarming/ engagement) her husband died this summer she got engaged on Christmas. Things like that never happen to me, finding 1 person who wants to marry me is hard enough she's had 2
Why is that funny? My ex used to say that all the time. That like I get to say whatever I was (not just me but other people too) because he fought for our freedom to do that. It's just what I think about thats why I said it. Sorry I'm cheesy I guess
I can't with this. I absolutely hate the whole "I fought for your freedom so I'm allowed to be an *******." thing.
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Originally Posted by Gab12
I know and I think I can handle it. My ex described what his ex did everyday and literally it was nothing. I know I could do it. I do like plans but I am adaptable and flexible especially for my future husband
What was nothing?
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