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Old 02-01-2016, 11:05 PM
 
Location: North Carolina
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I have a question. Have you ever heard a success story about someone bein in a relationship where they were hit and abused, then left the person, then entered the relationship again and their partner stopped the abuse? Like maybe they went to counseling or anger classes and changed that behavior

Or do you think if someone is abusive in a relationship they will always be thT way?

My exes have been beaters and sometimes I wonder if they will change or if its possible .
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Old 02-01-2016, 11:14 PM
 
Location: Chicago. Kind of.
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No. Not in my experience anyway.
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Old 02-01-2016, 11:15 PM
 
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Possible. Not likely. Best to move on.
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Old 02-01-2016, 11:16 PM
 
Location: Texas
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Nope
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Old 02-01-2016, 11:20 PM
 
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Physical abuse is a behavior that almost never changes. You don't want that in your life. You are better than that.
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Old 02-01-2016, 11:21 PM
 
Location: 🇬🇧 In jolly old London! 🇬🇧
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Once a beater always a beater
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Old 02-01-2016, 11:26 PM
 
Location: North Carolina
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Physical abuse is a behavior that almost never changes. You don't want that in your life. You are better than that.
Yah my ex has been texting my sister and sending me texts through her . Not gonna fall for it but part of me wonders if he could change those behaviors.
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Old 02-01-2016, 11:32 PM
 
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Yah my ex has been texting my sister and sending me texts through her . Not gonna fall for it but part of me wonders if he could change those behaviors.
You are being manipulated. Abusive people do that. Just tell yourself that you deserve better than that.
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Old 02-01-2016, 11:39 PM
 
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I have a question. Have you ever heard a success story about someone bein in a relationship where they were hit and abused, then left the person, then entered the relationship again and their partner stopped the abuse? Like maybe they went to counseling or anger classes and changed that behavior

Or do you think if someone is abusive in a relationship they will always be thT way?

My exes have been beaters and sometimes I wonder if they will change or if its possible .
Anything is possible but don't count on it. Just move on. Just find counseling to figure out why you choose abusive dudes.
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Old 02-01-2016, 11:40 PM
 
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Yah my ex has been texting my sister and sending me texts through her . Not gonna fall for it but part of me wonders if he could change those behaviors.
Don't fall for it good!
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