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It's at the woman's discretion...
After a couple of dates, she may/may not feel comfortable enough to have sex with him. Also, as another poster stated, she doesn't want a "hit and run" guy either. There needs to be an emotional connection with sex.
Don't most men expect a woman to wait for sex until she is ready? I hope so! Does any guy actually want to have sex with an unwilling partner? Rapists excepted of course.
It's at the woman's discretion...
After a couple of dates, she may/may not feel comfortable enough to have sex with him. Also, as another poster stated, she doesn't want a "hit and run" guy either. There needs to be an emotional connection with sex.
That's about how I would put it. I'm definitely not a prude, but at the same time, casual sex isn't really for me......want something that means a little more.
"Wait" for sex? Do I expect a man to wait for....5 minutes? Yes. Five days...yes. Five weeks, no. For a guy to not be willing to wait at least a few dates then that is unreasonable to me. If he can't wait a minimal period of time for her to feel comfortable then he's just looking for a receptacle...fine for him but he can keep looking.
Who's counting? Wouldn't you want to know her well enough to have a pretty good idea as to whether she'd go psycho on you once you've done the deed? That can take more than two dates. And how long a guy's willing to wait depends on why he's dating, and whether the lady turns out to be something special, one of those rare high-potential-for-LTR-and-beyond types.
Don't most men expect a woman to wait for sex until she is ready? I hope so! Does any guy actually want to have sex with an unwilling partner? Rapists excepted of course.
Right...exactly...
It's kind of a weird question...what does th OP mean by "wait"? A month? X amount of dates? However long it takes to book the motel room...?
Sex is a very personal thing and I am opening myself to someone, figuratively and literally. We're both getting sweaty, making weird faces, I mean it's intimate...I find it so strange that apparently guys generally don't feel weirded out seeing perhaps a near-stranger that way? I don't know...I need to know the person at least a bit first. I have only found a few guys in my dating history who demanded sex immediately or else we "must not be compatible types." My answer was, "We're not compatible types, hope you find the girl you're looking for." Bye.
FTR, how soon I felt comfortable absolutely varied, I had no special X amount of dates system or anything. So it's not like the guy could be a jerk, or maybe simply not my speed in various ways, but after 2 or 3 or 10 or however many dates he'd be in. It just doesn't work that way, at least for me.
But always longer than they think they should have to.
Even after marriage.
Not always Ralphy but if you get a red rider too soon, you'll shoot your eye out.
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