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Which is why when you find someone who's on the same page as you about sex, it is the best feeling ever, theres nothing more worse than dealing with someone who has different expectations about not just sex but different personalities that don't match up.
I think the mere existence of a sexual timetable would render someone incompatible for me, for a variety of reasons.
I am a guy. The usual number of dates until I have had sex is about 4 to 5 dates (sometimes sooner).
I have been out with this lady 7 times (over a 5 to 6 week period). I thought 7 was a "lucky" number but to no avail. And when I say no sex, I mean zero sex (of any kind). To be fair, this girl did tell me on date No. 1 that she is a "traditional" girl. I should have quizzed her on what that meant.
I thought 7 dates was a real long wait...so I am thinking it may be best to part our separate ways? I am not sure how long until she feels comfortable but she is 29 years old and has only had one sexual partner (her ex-husband). So the waiting game here could stretch on for a while...though she assures me she is NOT waiting for marriage until she has sex. She just wants to feel comfortable and that she can trust the guy she is with.
Be patient or move on...? For those that answer please specify your gender, just trying to get some perspective. Thanks.
I'd say move on... for her sake. You're wasting her time. She deserves someone who's interested in her as a person and lover and not just interested in how long till he can have sex with her.
Depends if you work out,
eat healthy
sleep healthy
stay fit
Yea you can be good in bed
eat fast food junk
don't sleep at all.
smoke all day.
don't work out.
and so on...
yea you can suck in bed.
Regardless of timings.
..Again, where on earth is the logic in that? I've dated guys who eat crap and are good in bed, and guys who work out every day and were awful. It's what a person likes and about chemistry that make people good. Not timing and what they eat.
Seriously, what are people here smoking?
Point of dating is not to get laid? That is a laugh. That is the main motivation for myself.
Sex or "getting laid" should be in the context of a romantic relationship, at least like the person. Sex without some "caring" about the other person, is just a physical thing, not very far from going to the toilet.
I don´t say you have to be in "love" but the main point of dating, in my opinion is to get to know the other person.
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..Again, where on earth is the logic in that? I've dated guys who eat crap and are good in bed, and guys who work out every day and were awful. It's what a person likes and about chemistry that make people good. Not timing and what they eat.
Seriously, what are people here smoking?
I agree to a point, but if a person doesn't have decent diet and isn't in decent physical shape they would be hard pressed to be very good in bed just for lack of physical endurance and strength.
I agree to a point, but if a person doesn't have decent diet and isn't in decent physical shape they would be hard pressed to be very good in bed just for lack of physical endurance and strength.
Generally true, as they'd get worn out faster, but definitely not the rule. There are many other ways someone can be awful in bed, that have nothing to do with running out of breath.
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Generally true, as they'd get worn out faster, but definitely not the rule. There are many other ways someone can be awful in bed, that have nothing to do with running out of breath.
Sure, there are, but it is hard to be good in bed without having some physical fitness. Maybe not impossible, but hard.
Those who are saying that women should wait numerous dates before sleeping with a guy are ignoring the obvious here: After 7 dates if nothing sexual has occurred, one of two things is going on:
1) The woman is just not into you.
2) The woman is just not into sex.
In either case, if you go out 7 times, 17 times, or 70 times - you're still not getting any.
No one is saying a woman "should" wait. And, no one is saying "nothing at all sexual".
We are saying, guys who call women who DO wait "prudes", are wrong. Not to mention immature, judgmental idiots.
No one is saying a woman "should" wait. And, no one is saying "nothing at all sexual".
We are saying, guys who call women who DO wait "prudes", are wrong. Not to mention immature, judgmental idiots.
That and the implication that she's waiting on purpose and counting the dates in her head the same way the OP has been counting the # of dates where he hasn't "gotten" sex.
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That is a laugh. That is the main motivation for myself.
