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Personally for me, the only question I would ask a girl would be has she been sexually active in the past. I would ask this question because I am a virgin and when I do decide to have sex I want us both to get tested for any diseases, better to be safe than sorry.
Honestly, I do. It might be why I haven't much success with women but I don't mind it. I myself am not perfect but some things women have told me have made me turn them down. Just being honest.
I don't worry too much about someone's past, unless it can negatively affect our future. I look at who the person is NOW - if they are responsible and reliable now, then it does not matter if they were not previously. However, it does not sound like you've changed - yet. For me, that would be a deal breaker - I do not want a fixer-upper or a woman in need of rescuing from irresponsibility. If she can pull it together NOW, I'd give her a chance, though, if we're otherwise compatible.
It will make a difference to some and not others. A lot depends on whether or not you really have turned yourself around, and are heading in new direction. Men will be able to tell.
If I were the bloke you shared your details with, my reaction and subsequent judgement would depend on how you presented everything. If you were very cavalier about it, especially the trouble with the law, I might think twice. But if you seemed to recognise it as less than ideal behaviour, I wouldn't be bothered by it. We've all been young and unwise.
The guys you're chatting with may not have their act together quite as much as you think, anyway. They may be hesitant to reveal certain aspects of their personal history just as you are.
About your penchant for travel; it's not unusual for a young to prioritise seeing the world over settling into the full burden of adult responsibilities. Chances are you'll be interested in men who like to do a bit of adventuring as well, so it shouldn't be a problem. What matters most is that you do keep up with your bills.
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Haha well.. some of these guys are so ambitious. Knew exactly what they wanted to do, graduated with good grades and got their MBAs/Master's, life on track kind of ordeal. Probably saving money on a house down payment or investing elsewhete.
Me? No money, I blow it. I consider myself lucky to have landed a great career but I have nothing to show..lol.
Haha! Cheers!!!! Someone who understands!!! Lol.. god, I blow so much money.. my bank account is crying everyday. -_- and my friends keep asking me to travel or go out! Lol.
Everybody has a past, as long as you learned from it, I don't see any issues.
However, you seem to be all over the place and you still sound like a hot mess. "LOL" after "nothing to show" is telling it all. "Money, I blow it." Uhm, yeah. I think you need more growing up to do if you want to land a decent guy. No offense.
If I were the bloke you shared your details with, my reaction and subsequent judgement would depend on how you presented everything. If you were very cavalier about it, especially the trouble with the law, I might think twice. But if you seemed to recognise it as less than ideal behaviour, I wouldn't be bothered by it. We've all been young and unwise.
The guys you're chatting with may not have their act together quite as much as you think, anyway. They may be hesitant to reveal certain aspects of their personal history just as you are.
About your penchant for travel; it's not unusual for a young to prioritise seeing the world over settling into the full burden of adult responsibilities. Chances are you'll be interested in men who like to do a bit of adventuring as well, so it shouldn't be a problem. What matters most is that you do keep up with your bills.
Good luck with your new connections!
Thanks! Everyone is not perfect but in the initial stages, I'm just nervous of revealing all that. If you were to meet me now, you'd probably think I got my **** together. Everyone does, haha. And maybe I do but just being too hard on myself. My life motto is to fake it til ya make it :P
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Originally Posted by oh-eve
Everybody has a past, as long as you learned from it, I don't see any issues.
However, you seem to be all over the place and you still sound like a hot mess. "LOL" after "nothing to show" is telling it all. "Money, I blow it." Uhm, yeah. I think you need more growing up to do if you want to land a decent guy. No offense.
All over the place? Hot mess? Haha why, judging from a few posts and my "Lol"?
Man, people on here are funny.. starting to nitpick words now.
Lol. (Oh ****, shouldn't have wrote that.. sorry)
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