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Old 02-21-2016, 02:21 PM
 
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I met a guy 5 years ago and immediately fell for him. I mean head over heels, not just a crush. I told him how I felt and he said he liked me too, yet treated me like no one. He would ignore me for months on end, but come back whenever I gave him an ultimatum. He led me on for 2 years until I got tired of it and dated other people, with him always in the back of my mind. Those relationships ended and I went back to thinking of him.

He told me last year that he loved me, but has never mentioned it again since. I spent the night with him 2 days ago and he said he had waited 5 years to be able to kiss me, and that he had been single since he met me. He introduced me to his friends. To my surprise, all of his friends knew who I was, so he had been telling them about me over the years. He asked if he could call me his girlfriend, to which I raised an eyebrow. I didn't think he actually cared, but my thoughts were starting to change.
He took me home the next day and has not said a word to me since. Is it just me or is he sending mixed signals? Am I too clingy? What should I do?
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Old 02-21-2016, 02:26 PM
 
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OP:

Please read the link below.

The Differences between Love and Infatuation

Carefully think about which one applies to you.
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Old 02-21-2016, 02:27 PM
 
Location: Canada
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I met a guy 5 years ago and immediately fell for him. I mean head over heels, not just a crush. I told him how I felt and he said he liked me too, yet treated me like no one. He would ignore me for months on end, but come back whenever I gave him an ultimatum. He led me on for 2 years until I got tired of it and dated other people, with him always in the back of my mind. Those relationships ended and I went back to thinking of him.

He told me last year that he loved me, but has never mentioned it again since. I spent the night with him 2 days ago and he said he had waited 5 years to be able to kiss me, and that he had been single since he met me. He introduced me to his friends. To my surprise, all of his friends knew who I was, so he had been telling them about me over the years. He asked if he could call me his girlfriend, to which I raised an eyebrow. I didn't think he actually cared, but my thoughts were starting to change.
He took me home the next day and has not said a word to me since. Is it just me or is he sending mixed signals? Am I too clingy? What should I do?

I would modify your post to say "I allowed him to lead me on for 2 years". Quite frankly, you've presented yourself as a sure thing and sat around wasting time and wasting your life for someone who might throw you a scrap and seems to be using you and playing games. This is the type of guy you've been dreaming about? Really?
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Old 02-21-2016, 02:42 PM
 
Location: Tennessee
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Geeezzz. this isn't a hard one at all.

Move on!
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Old 02-21-2016, 02:48 PM
 
Location: Northern Wisconsin
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He's just not that into you.
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Old 02-22-2016, 08:54 AM
 
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I wasted 5 minutes reading this thread and it's my fault.
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Old 02-22-2016, 09:04 AM
 
Location: ......SC
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Seriously, you are not a priority in his life.

Next!
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Old 02-22-2016, 10:27 AM
 
Location: Asgard
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Sorry that this happened to you. But perfect example where probably there was a good guy who you probably friendzoned while thinking of a sleazebag.


You had infatuation not love. Move on, give the good guy a chance. Take time to know a guy, seems like you fell for the looks.
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Old 02-22-2016, 10:28 AM
 
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Yes, you are too clingy. Once every two years is fine. Any more than that is expecting too much.
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Old 02-22-2016, 11:32 AM
 
Location: In a place beyond human comprehension
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That's not a real relationship.

Dude is just playing mind games. Someone who really cares about you and loves you won't leave you hanging like that.
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