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Its weak and LAME to ask for a kiss
who the heck does that and gets a second date
if a woman wants you to kiss her, she sends the vibe...if you don't pick up on it your done
Not true at all. There is nothing wrong with moving in close and asking how she would feel about you kissing her. Thinking that you have to always "just know" is weak sauce. And being worried that you might be seen as weak if you ask is even weaker sauce.
And when it comes to more intimate stuff like sex, "just knowing" can get a guy charged with rape.
Having a vast number of male friends, I think that that would probably be the end of the friendship right there. Because 1) I'm not a kiss dispenser there for the convenience of others and 2) what kind of weirdo asks for a kiss without any romantic lead-up. In fact, if one leads up to it appropriately there really isn't a reason to ask - it just happens.
Wow, that's crazy.
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Originally Posted by soUlwounD
No, absolutely not!
It might leave deep scars when someone kisses you without you would want it or be ready for it.
It is sexual abusing when one partner did not wanted it to happend.
It coud be a issue of years therapy, mouth is personal and intimate place. Some people think mouth is even more intimate than actual sexual organs and might have casual sex but without kissing.
Even cheek kisses could be too much intimacy for some people
Always make sure no matter a hug, cheek kiss or mouth kiss etc. that a person is on the same page and wants to receive it!
Yeah, I've slept with women who didn't allow kissing because we weren't "in a relationship".... Which ruined it for me. Now, I make sure that we've already kissed before we smash.
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Originally Posted by aliwalas
If my guy friend has asked me for a kiss, I'd laugh and say, "No".
I think it's fine to ask. You'll never know, maybe the girl wants it too? To me, it's way better to ask than just swoop in for a kiss. That is a violation of space. I mean, you're just "friends" right? I've had a couple of guy best friends and really, if they kissed me out of nowhere back then, I would be pissed.
^^^ That's what I'm saying. Minus the, "No" part.
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Originally Posted by old_cold
Hard to tell exactly the point of the op wanting to kiss her.
If she is attracting you enough to want to kiss her, ask her out and then try.
But if it's just ....well, I don't know what it would be to want to ONLY kiss someone without it going anywhere. Weird.
Yes, it seems as though I'll need to take her on a date first, which is fine. Hopefully it leads to something more physical than just a kiss if that's the case. Thing is, after you've slept with a woman, some of them for whatever expect something long term and get offended and passive aggressive (or not so 'passive") when you inform them that you just want to be friends.
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Originally Posted by Sweet Like Sugar
Yes, it's possible so be prepared for that.
She's a laid back chick. I can't personally see her getting mad over something like this.
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Originally Posted by PhureeKeeper
You take the trouble to set up a poll, and then question everyone who says NO. Me thinks you might have a problem with boundaries.
Not questioning, just responding to all the "why" questions.
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Originally Posted by neutrino78x
According to a lot of people on here, though, it isn't right to want it to happen like that. They think the only way to meet someone is Backwards Dating, where you go on romantic dates with people you have never met, and you get to know them during the dates, not before.
Personally I would feel more comfortable getting to know someone as friends, and having sex with them as a natural evolution from close friendship into a relationship. Unfortunately my way has never worked for me and therefore I am still a virgin. But it does work for others.
So my point is, while I agree that just randomly asking a female friend for a kiss would be weird and probably not right, I do think it is right to ask a female friend on a date (or something of that nature, ask her if she wants to get a drink or whatever). In fact, the only way I would feel comfortable dating or having sex is if I was already platonic friends with the person.
Eeeek! The "R" word again.... I'd like to reiterate that I'm looking for anything serious, it's just lust.
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Originally Posted by Just A Guy
Not true at all. There is nothing wrong with moving in close and asking how she would feel about you kissing her. Thinking that you have to always "just know" is weak sauce. And being worried that you might be seen as weak if you ask is even weaker sauce.
You feel me?
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Originally Posted by Just A Guy
And when it comes to more intimate stuff like sex, "just knowing" can get a guy charged with rape.
Happened to me once (female here). I almost filed for sexual harrassment at workplace.
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