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That is very understandable. I would be friends with him if it was a mutual decision and a clean break, say like if we both just didn't love each other anymore and thought we would be better as friends. Then ok.
But not if I'm just sitting here in love with someone, clueless as to what's going on behind my back, get cheated on, then 3 months later 'hey want to be friends?" He didn't check on me or try to reach out at all until yesterday so what makes him want to 'see if I'm ok' all of a sudden?
Like I said it's all just weird. You don't expect someone you're in love with for 3 years to do something like this. He claims he's in love with her and happy with her, then why does he tell me he still cares and misses me? I just realized there were smilies lol.
Honey, please don't do this to yourself. Chalk it up to him being a selfish, thoughtless man that had a side you didn't realize he had and let it go.
The old saying is he is taking up space in your head and not even paying any rent.
Evict him from your thoughts and your mind. Be nice to yourself,, especially since he isn't.
The only time my ex ever said anything mean to my face was after we broke up. I was crying (obviously lol) and he made some very cruel comments. But now I'm pretty sure he's talked a lot of crap to his friends and his new gf about me, because he talked a lot of crap about his ex girlfriends to me.
Well he sounds like quite a prize. Seriously, he doesn't sound remotely worth all the energy you're expending on him. He doesn't sound like someone who would be a worthwhile friend, either.
Honey, please don't do this to yourself. Chalk it up to him being a selfish, thoughtless man that had a side you didn't realize he had and let it go.
The old saying is he is taking up space in your head and not even paying any rent.
Evict him from your thoughts and your mind. Be nice to yourself,, especially since he isn't.
Thanks for your help! I blocked his number last night as I said I would, so he won't be contacting me anymore. I doubt he would try to anyways as our conversation was purely negative bickering.
He said "I guess you'll always see me as some monster and I'll never be able to change your mind" and "I'm just a human who makes mistakes, if only you could see things from my shoes" Would you guys consider these comments to be manipulative? I feel like he was somehow trying to turn things on me and fault me, or maybe I'm just overthinking things. I understand I shouldn't be worried about it, but some outside advice on the comments would help me out.
Thanks for your help! I blocked his number last night as I said I would, so he won't be contacting me anymore. I doubt he would try to anyways as our conversation was purely negative bickering.
He said "I guess you'll always see me as some monster and I'll never be able to change your mind" and "I'm just a human who makes mistakes, if only you could see things from my shoes" Would you guys consider these comments to be manipulative? I feel like he was somehow trying to turn things on me and fault me, or maybe I'm just overthinking things. I understand I shouldn't be worried about it, but some outside advice on the comments would help me out.
Yes, they are manipulative comments.
He cares not one bit about you, only about what you think of him. It's his ego talking, not his heart.
Thanks for your help! I blocked his number last night as I said I would, so he won't be contacting me anymore. I doubt he would try to anyways as our conversation was purely negative bickering.
He said "I guess you'll always see me as some monster and I'll never be able to change your mind" and "I'm just a human who makes mistakes, if only you could see things from my shoes" Would you guys consider these comments to be manipulative? I feel like he was somehow trying to turn things on me and fault me, or maybe I'm just overthinking things. I understand I shouldn't be worried about it, but some outside advice on the comments would help me out.
LOL. He's saying it's your shortcomings that are the issue.
He's just the poor, misunderstood philanderer.
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LOL. He's saying it's your shortcomings that are the issue.
He's just the poor, misunderstood philanderer.
Yeah I guess he's trying to justify his actions every way possible. I tried last night to explain my side and tell him exactly how I felt and it's like he just didn't get it, so I stopped wasting my time. I kept getting told I have it all wrong and I see everything negatively. Very disappointed in him and how all of this happened.
Yep, again, my ex and I had that same bickering on the phone. People kept telling me to block him, but I didn't because I thought I could convince him he was wrong for doing what he did. He said the same crap yours did, along with that it was somehow my fault for not making enough money, etc., as why he was justified in cheating. My ex was a narcissist. Not like how people throw the term around, but a real narcissist (his PhD psychologist friend diagnosed him). Your ex is likely a narcissist as well. Zero empathy, and every move they make, is for their own selfish reason. Chalk this up to you falling in with a narcissist, and accept that there's nothing you can do to make him see your side, or that what he did was wrong. Narcissists think they can do no wrong. Best to leave them alone, and hope the new girl gets her life destroyed by him, too.
Yeah I guess he's trying to justify his actions every way possible. I tried last night to explain my side and tell him exactly how I felt and it's like he just didn't get it, so I stopped wasting my time. I kept getting told I have it all wrong and I see everything negatively. Very disappointed in him and how all of this happened.
Weren't you disappointed enough when he dumped you out of the blue, and started schtumpting your friend?
What are you waiting for? For him to kill a puppy?
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[quote=Mikala43;43149780]Weren't you disappointed enough when he dumped you out of the blue, and started schtumpting your friend?
Yes indeed I was.
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I just realized there were smilies lol.
