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So just a really quick and very general observation. Is the onus almost 99.9999% of the time on the guy to make the first move- whether it is to engage in conversation, ask for a date/number or to explicitly express interest in the girl? For example, Lately I've been noticing that sometimes girls will put themselves in position to catch my attention- whether it is eye contact and a smile or they will sit next to me when there are other spaces available, etc. Anything and everything short of actually opening their mouth and speaking first. And if I don't make a move or start a conversation nothing happens (and in fact sometimes I get a bit of a glare or pained expression as if they expected something). Am I imagining things and over-estimating female intentions or can everyone else validate this social fact?
Grasshopper does not realize that a woman putting herself in a position to catch his attention, making eye contact with him, and sitting next to him when there are plenty of open seats around him are first moves.
Sorry, I can't change what I'm attracted to. Why do you think a mutual relationship can't come from this.
Because if you have neither the desire nor the social skills to literally just look someone in the eye and say hello, it is very, very reasonable to assume you don't have the social skills for an actual relationship.
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Because if you have neither the desire nor the social skills to literally just look someone in the eye and say hello, it is very, very reasonable to assume you don't have the social skills for an actual relationship.
Grasshopper does not realize that a woman putting herself in a position to catch his attention, making eye contact with him, and sitting next to him when there are plenty of open seats around him are first moves.
Eh?
He realized his post even says this. He was questioning why nobody actually speaks if what they want is to get to know someone.
Ahh, the plot thickens. So not only are you not trying to ascertain what the problem is, but you feel that you are entitled to the solution simply because women get it. Well, I have some bad news for you...
Things are not equal.
And trust me, I'm one of the last people around here to highlight the benefits of being male, but there are some. You don't care about them because you take them for granted; the proverbial grass being greener on the other side. You don't get to reap the benefits of being male, while insisting on equality regarding the benefits of being female...that's not the way the world works. There are plenty of women that do exactly the reverse of that around here already, and consider how they sound. You're being just like that.
Because if you have neither the desire nor the social skills to literally just look someone in the eye and say hello, it is very, very reasonable to assume you don't have the social skills for an actual relationship.
But that hasn't prevented me from having friendships with guys, only girls. Why is that?
Women always make the first move by holding eye contact a beat too long or playing with their hair or whatever it is that gives the guy the green light to approach.
Unless we're talking about walking up to complete strangers and start talking. That's pretty rare tho'.. Women usually don't do that as often as men and even most men are too chicken shiit to do it.
Women always make the first move by holding eye contact a beat too long or playing with their hair or whatever it is that gives the guy the green light to approach.
Unless we're talking about walking up to complete strangers and start talking. That's pretty rare tho'.. Women usually don't do that as often as men and even most men are too chicken shiit to do it.
Considering every man is a bumbling idiot, rapist and pervert based on modern societies view, do you really blame them?
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