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That was just long enough for me to finish my cereal without it getting soggy.
OP: Fix your *great* marriage or be prepared to pay child support for a very long time.
Cut off contact with the other woman and think about your children.
This is straight up The Notebook kind of love. (remember the girl cheats on her man to go back to Noah). nobody talks about the affair in that movie and all women still love it.
So, you think cheating on your wife with a married woman is the type of love you see in the movies? You think it's "love" because she's the best sex you've ever had? You think sex is love?
You think you're in love because you can't stop thinking about her? Sounds like textbook infatuation/addiction to me.
By this age, you should know the difference between infatuation and genuine love. You made promises to your wife when you got married. I'd suggest you keep them. Besides that, your children would be devastated. At some point in life, if you become a mature adult, you learn that its not all about you. You need to consider other people's lives, especially your present wife and children.
Keep it up with this other woman. BUT Here's what you can expect in the wake of your little affair:
Divorce- this is where you lose everything- your wife, your house, half your income and possessions, possibly your job, your kids- EVERYTHING. You will LOSE IT ALL.
Exposure- this is where everyone finds out what a scumbag you are. And they WILL find out. Your boss, your co-workers, your friends, your family, HER family, your neighbors, the parents of your kids' friends, everyone at your church (if you go). They WILL find out. Why? Because your now ex-wife will tell them. She will probably tell everyone she knows, and everyone you know, and she will feel good doing it. Consider yourself lucky if she doesn't rent a billboard. Otherwise, all bets are off. Be prepared.
Your Kids- this is where you totally lose the respect of your kids, and you deserve to lose it. They will realize in pretty short order that you didn't care enough about them to keep your damn pants on. They will see their mother cry and they will hate you for it. They will end up shuttling back and forth between their home and your apartment, and they will hate you for it. Every time they have to tell someone that their parents are divorced, they will hate you for it. And God forbid you decide to introduce this other woman as step-mom, they will REALLY hate you for that. If your kids are really young, you have a little time before all this fit hits the shan, but be warned, it's coming. They will forever see you as the moron who broke up their family. They will know that you can't be trusted, that you are weak and immoral and selfish. And they'll figure it out all by themselves, even if you never talk to them about it. Because your kids are smarter than you are.
Start with the rationalizations and justifications now, you're going to need a lot of them. Remember that the best defense is a good offense and start a mental list of all the ways your wife is deficient. Make sure to re-write the history of your marriage so that you can say that you were miserable from the first day. Be sure to tell your wife that you love her, you're just not "in love" with her anymore. Deal with your guilt by lashing out at everyone around you. Above all, take no responsibility for any problems YOU may have that caused you to be such a spineless worm in the first place.
Congratulations, you've joined the Adulterers Club. See you in hell.
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OP, drop the star-crossed lover shtick and own up to the reality that innocent people are going to be harmed, here, and it's your selfish behavior that's going to hurt them. Are you comfortable with that?
I appreciate the comments, I really do. I don't disagree with the scumbag comments either. While it feels right to the both of us I no it's wrong in the eyes of the majority and especially in the eyes of our spouses. I just never thought I'd be in this position. My whole life I've been told I'm a handsome guy, I've been hit on by women many times over the years. Even some of my wife's friends have made passes at me. I've never in any of those instances considered cheating on my wife. I've never lusted over another woman besides the one we are talking about now. No one has ever compared to my wife in my eyes. Now that this girl is close and we are interacting she has become my kryptonite. It really does help getting it out that, even if it's to a bunch of strangers the opinions are real. I know now that we do have to end it and maybe our hearts and minds are tricking us into believing we can be better off together when in reality as it has been said so many things will fall apart around us down the road. My plan now is to put and end to it, beg for God's forgiveness and choose my wife. We really do have a great marriage. thanks for all the advice.
Why is it so important for you to keep telling us how awesome you are?
I'm sorry if it came across that way. I was just trying to paint a picture of my personality and that I've been in situations where I've made the right decisions and this girl has me making the wrong ones. I apologize it was not my intent. I'm obviously not that awesome...
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