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Old 02-28-2016, 01:23 PM
 
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Kinda glad I found this website to talk to, not sure what to do in my situation.
I have been dating my boyfriend for about 4 1/2 years now. At first it was great! We would go out to nice parties, have a great love life, went to many places together, etc. I do make more money then him so I always felt it was nicer to pitch in on things more, as he was using his money for our rent and building his own business. Well that was almost 3 years ago since that all changed. He still uses his money to buy things for his business, which to this day he just spends money and hasn't made a thing to show for it except the thrill of getting new things. I still make more then him, and pay for the rent, food, basically everything and feel like his mother. He is now in school for a 2 year program to further his education, but he never does his homework. I was gone for 2 1/2 weeks for a work trip and asked him to do one thing. Get up to date on your school work. Well I just got back this past week and he hasn't done anything. On top of that, our house is always a mess. I always feel like I'm cleansing after him, and half way that I'm cleaning he always says something and we get into a fight. The only thing I really want from him is to get a job, whether it be working for yourself or someone else, even though he is in school full time. Ugh. What do I do? We fight all the time over stupid stuff, I do love him but this needs to change that I basically pay for the roof over his head, which isn't cheap.
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Old 02-28-2016, 01:31 PM
 
Location: In a place beyond human comprehension
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You need to talk to him.

Not much we can say to help you.
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Old 02-28-2016, 02:01 PM
 
Location: Brentwood, Tennessee
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Why are you still with him??
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Old 02-28-2016, 02:16 PM
 
Location: SW MO
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Why are you still with him??
That would be my question as well. Clearly over the course of the last three years he's settled into a ne'er-do-well routine of being kept he's all too comfortable with.

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Old 02-28-2016, 02:41 PM
 
Location: Tennessee
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I guess if you want to live the rest of your life being his mother, housekeeper, etc. there is not much that can be said, right?

If you want change, make it happen! Don't wait too late!
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Old 02-28-2016, 02:43 PM
 
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OP things don't need to change; its actually YOU who needs to change.


Stop supporting him.
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Old 02-28-2016, 05:21 PM
 
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4 1/2 years?!?

This is kinda your fault. You let him do all this.

Stop babying him and then lay the ground work for his eviction.
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Old 02-28-2016, 06:07 PM
 
Location: a primitive state
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That's stupid. You pay the rent. Kick him out. It won't be hard to find a better boyfriend than he is.
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Old 02-29-2016, 08:30 AM
 
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Kinda glad I found this website to talk to, not sure what to do in my situation.
I have been dating my boyfriend for about 4 1/2 years now. At first it was great! We would go out to nice parties, have a great love life, went to many places together, etc. I do make more money then him so I always felt it was nicer to pitch in on things more, as he was using his money for our rent and building his own business. Well that was almost 3 years ago since that all changed. He still uses his money to buy things for his business, which to this day he just spends money and hasn't made a thing to show for it except the thrill of getting new things. I still make more then him, and pay for the rent, food, basically everything and feel like his mother. He is now in school for a 2 year program to further his education, but he never does his homework. I was gone for 2 1/2 weeks for a work trip and asked him to do one thing. Get up to date on your school work. Well I just got back this past week and he hasn't done anything. On top of that, our house is always a mess. I always feel like I'm cleansing after him, and half way that I'm cleaning he always says something and we get into a fight. The only thing I really want from him is to get a job, whether it be working for yourself or someone else, even though he is in school full time. Ugh. What do I do? We fight all the time over stupid stuff, I do love him but this needs to change that I basically pay for the roof over his head, which isn't cheap.
You need to break up with this kid and find a man. You know, someone who has actually grown up, gotten a job, and established himself in life. He sounds like he is 14 and still in high school.
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Old 02-29-2016, 09:23 AM
 
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You are more like his mother than his partner in life. I would stay, there aren't kids involved, and it won't change. I mean seriously, only a mother would ask someone to make sure to do homework, not a girlfriend!!!
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