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Old 03-02-2016, 05:56 AM
 
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If someone admits to being both needy and narcissistic then you're supposed to run as fast as possible in the opposite direction. It's not rocket science when they tell you flat out who/what they are.
Yeah that part I was good with...

It's the part that I am too independent that I am struggling with... What type of guy likes "too independent", but still wants a partner and attention more than 1-2 times a week.
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Old 03-02-2016, 05:57 AM
 
Location: Pa
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Agreed! That is not what I am asking!!!!!

He was also on probation and can't own firearms... Dating him was not on my radar at anytime on the conversation. He takes longer to get ready than I do...
Omg....
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Old 03-02-2016, 06:00 AM
 
Location: Brentwood, Tennessee
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No I was good with all that. He had definitely said he has lots of flaws. It was just interesting hanging out with, sharing some beers and talking to a type of guy that I have never been around.
You had "some beers" with a professional who came to your house for an estimate??????????????????
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Old 03-02-2016, 06:01 AM
 
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Omg....
Does not come as a shock to me... I am not joking when I say that I can walk in a bar of 100 people, and the one that walks up to me is either bipolar, homeless or has a criminal record 5 pages thick..
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Old 03-02-2016, 06:01 AM
 
Location: Brentwood, Tennessee
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Yeah that part I was good with...

It's the part that I am too independent that I am struggling with... What type of guy likes "too independent", but still wants a partner and attention more than 1-2 times a week.
A full-grown, emotionally mature adult man.

There is no store that has this "type" of man you are trying to describe. It's not like something you can order. You still will have to go through the trial and error process, only hopefully learning from the errors.
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Old 03-02-2016, 06:03 AM
 
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You had "some beers" with a professional who came to your house for an estimate??????????????????
Well I always ask if I can offer a guest a drink. He just happened to say I will take what you are having. Are you not polite?
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Old 03-02-2016, 06:05 AM
 
Location: a primitive state
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I have not. But I don't think it's going to work out because boyfriend does not want to spend time together and do things. He is content living four miles away and having his own life.

I slid it into the conversation that I had a boyfriend. Heck even my ex boyfriend ( he use to live with me in the house) called to remind me to add an item to the estimate that needed to be done.

You are missing the point that we were chit chatting, talking about dating in this area, things that have not worked for us, etc. I am very social and easy to talk to, and this guy was similar. I love meeting new people.
So focus on dating guys who have their acts together.

You are independent by nature. So am I.

It doesn't suit all men. However, some men like that trait. They're usually confident in themselves but don't need to be in control of anybody. My husband liked the fact that I had my own tools and supplies for home repairs. He thinks it's hilarious that I currently have four organized tool boxes in my studio.

Maybe it's a rare trait in a man that he can provide enough nurturing affection and feedback to a strong woman. It certainly took me awhile to find the right one.

You still need to be happy by yourself and put the husband search on the back burner. Neediness is not attractive. Independence and self-sufficiency are.
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Old 03-02-2016, 06:07 AM
 
Location: Brentwood, Tennessee
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Well I always ask if I can offer a guest a drink. He just happened to say I will take what you are having. Are you not polite?
I am very polite, but I am also professional.

He wasn't your guest. He was there about a job, so he would have been your employee.
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Old 03-02-2016, 06:09 AM
 
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I am very polite, but I am also professional.

He wasn't your guest. He was there about a job, so he would have been your employee.
It's actually extremely unprofessional for someone working at your house to be drinking alcohol while you are paying them to do whatever it is.

Also unprofessional to be hitting on them too, but nothing this OP says surprises me
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Old 03-02-2016, 06:12 AM
 
Location: Pa
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Does not come as a shock to me... I am not joking when I say that I can walk in a bar of 100 people, and the one that walks up to me is either bipolar, homeless or has a criminal record 5 pages thick..
Yes some are, but you need to put up the [bleep] face.And tell them to go away. Lol!

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