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The definition of cheating is to act unfairly or dishonestly to gain an advantage. Does reading erotic lit on your own time deprive your partner or give you an advantage?
Cheating involves you another person who is not your spouse/partner. So no, not porn, erotic literature, dreams or thoughts.
This seems like a simple answer.
With porn, you are looking at somebody behind a screen. You don't know them. They don't know you. You are both not in contact, nor have any kind of relationship. All of that is pure one-sided fantasy. Which is not a relationship.That's like saying you're in a relationship with a celebrity you've been crushing on for years.
Someone whom you are personal. with, whom you can actively see, and communicate with, and contact , behind your partner's back, is cheating, if you're being romantic or sexual with the person. That is a personal 2-people affair, which makes all the difference.
A committed relationship is defined by those individuals that enter it. Any violation of that agreement or understanding between those can be considered cheating.....
Interesting question. I think I draw the line where there is personal, interactive contact with another person. When I watch porn, read erotic literature, have a dream... there is nobody at the other end. It's just me. When you are "sexting", there is you on one end and another person who is at the other end, somebody who is actively interacting with you. Interaction, that's the difference I think
Yup. I'd even include strip clubs and peep shows under that umbrella.
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Originally Posted by torontocheeka
It's simple: if you would be uncomfortable with your significant other finding out, it's cheating.
In our marriage, based on the boundaries we set, anything he or I wouldn't do in the other's presence. Neither of us would sext or behave inappropriately in each other's presence, right? I wouldn't talk all romantic, have deeply emotional and intimate conversations with someone sitting next to us, so that would suggest that if I'm hiding a certain behavior or doings/happenings, then it is inherently deceitful and a beach of trust.
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